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The Kingdom Of Heaven Is Within Me, May My Soul Guide Me In The Right Direction

2012-01-30T21:40:00.000-08:00

The Kingdom Of Heaven Is Within Me, May My Soul Guide Me In
The Right Direction

This is pretty neat.

Birth Certificate shows that we were born
A Death Certificate shows that we died
Pictures show that we live!
Have a seat. Relax . . .
And read this slowly.

I Believe...
That just because two people argue,
It doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue,
It doesn't mean they do love each other.

I Believe...
That we don't have to change friends if
We understand that friends change.

I Believe...
That no matter how good a friend is,
They're going to hurt you
Every once in a while,
And you must forgive them for that.

I Believe...
That true friendship continues to grow,
Even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I Believe...
That you can do something in an instant
That will give you heartache for life.

I Believe...
That it's taking me a long time
To become the person I want to be.

I Believe...
That you should always leave loved ones with Loving words.
It may be the last time you see them.

I Believe...
That you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I Believe...
That we are responsible for what
We do, no matter how we feel.

I Believe...
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I Believe...
That heroes are the people
Who do what has to be done,
When it needs to be done,
Regardless of the consequences.

I Believe...
That my best friend and I
Can do anything or nothing
And have the best time.

I Believe...
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down
will be the ones to help you get back up.

I Believe...
That sometimes, when I'm angry,
I have the right to be angry, but that
Doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I Believe...
That maturity has more to do
With what types of experiences you've had
And what you've learned from them,
And less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I Believe...
That it isn't always enough
To be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn
To forgive yourself.

I Believe...
That no matter how bad
Your heart is broken,
The world doesn't stop for your grief.

I Believe...
That our background and circumstances
May have influenced who we are, but,
We are responsible for who we become.

I Believe...
That you shouldn't be
So eager to find out a secret.
It could change your life forever.

I Believe...
Two people can look at the exact same thing
And see something totally different.

I Believe...
That your life can be changed
In a matter of hours
By people who don't even know you.

I Believe...
That even when you think
You have no more to give,
When a friend cries out to you,
You will find the strength to help.

I Believe...
That credentials on the wall
Do not make you a decent human being.

I Believe...
That the people you care about
Most in life
Are taken from you too soon.

I Believe...
That you should send this to
All of the people that you believe in.
I just did.
'The happiest of people don't necessarily have
The best of everything;
They just make the most of everything

Hugs balance brain chemicals

2012-01-28T22:35:00.003-08:00

Hugs balance brain chemicals

Here is something I found from my journal writing in 2003. I was thinking about the people who say that depressed, self-harming teens have "chemical imbalances". The excuse of "chemical imbalances" is especially popular with parents who don't want to take any responsibility for emotionally harming their own children and teens. But I don't believe the teens have any innate chemical imbalances. I don't think they were born with some kind of brain problem. I think they were born with sensitive brain connections, but not "chemical imbalances."

What I would say is that when their environment causes them pain, they are affected by it more intensely, and their chemicals are temporarily out of balance in moments of pain.

After talking to many teens who tell me their parents don't listen to them and don't give them hugs, I have thought more about the mental health benefits of hugs. This led me to this simple, but powerful thought:

Hugs balance brain chemicals

I believe that if the teens would have consistently received hugs during their moments of emotional pain when they were younger, they would be much less depressed as teenagers. Often, all we need when we are emotionally upset is someone to listen to us and give us a hug.

I also believe this is the most natural way for us to get our brain chemicals back into balance. And it is the most peaceful way. There might be times when violence and aggression helps balance our brain chemicals to some degree, but while violence breeds violence, hugs breed more hugs.

Signs of High and Low EQ

2012-01-28T22:32:00.000-08:00

Signs of High and Low EQ

Note: This was written before I made a clear distinction between innate emotional intelligence and what happens later in life...So it is better to think of these as signs of a healthy or well-developed innate emotional intelligence

Listed below are general characteristics of people with high and low EQ, as I define it. Obviously, these are generalizations, but are helpful as guidelines. Please note that these lists include general signs of high and low self-esteem, as well as other variables which have not in fact been specifically correlated to emotional intelligence as defined by Mayer and Salovey. Future work will attempt to more clearly differentiate between self-esteem, emotional intelligence and my definition of EQ.

Signs of High EQ

A person with High EQ:

Expresses his feelings clearly and directly with three word sentences beginning with "I feel..."
Does not disguise thoughts as feelings by the use of "I feel like...." and "I feel that...." sentences.
Is not afraid to express her feelings.
Is not dominated by negative emotions such as:

Fear, Worry, Guilt, Shame, Embarrassment, Obligation, Disappointment, Hopelessness, Powerlessness,
Dependency, Victimization, Discouragement

Is able to read non-verbal communication.
Lets his feelings lead him to healthy choices and happiness.
Balances feelings with reason, logic, and reality.
Acts out of desire, not because of duty, guilt, force or obligation.
Is independent, self-reliant and morally autonomous.
Is intrinsically motivated.
Is not motivated by power, wealth, status, fame, or approval.
Is emotionally resilient.
Tends to feel optimistic, but is also realistic, and can feel pessimistic at times.
Does not internalize failure.
Is interested in other people's feelings.
Is comfortable talking about feelings.
Is not immobilized by fear or worry.
Is able to identify multiple concurrent feelings.

Signs of Low EQ - Or Unhealthy Development of Innate Emotional Intelligence

A person with Low EQ:

Doesn't take responsibilities for his feelings; but blames you or others for them.
Can't put together three word sentences starting with "I feel..."
Can't tell you why she feels the way she does, or can't do it without blaming someone else.
Attacks, blames, commands, criticizes, interrupts, invalidates, lectures, advises and judges you and others.
Tries to analyze you, for example when you express your feelings.
Often begins sentences with "I think you..."

Ex - I think you need to.. I think you should...
Sends "you messages" disguised as "I feel messages" For example, "I feel like you ...."
Lays guilt trips on you.
Withholds information about or lies about his feelings. (Emotional dishonesty)
Exaggerates or minimizes her feelings.
Lets things build up, then they blow up, or react strongly to something relatively minor.
Lacks integrity and a sense of conscience.
Carries grudges; is unforgiving.
Doesn't tell you where you really stand with her.
Is uncomfortable to be around.
Acts out his feelings, rather than talking them out.
Plays games; is indirect or evasive.
Is insensitive to your feelings.
Has no empathy, no compassion.
Is rigid, inflexible; needs rules and structure to feel secure.
Is not emotionally available; offers little chance of emotional intimacy.
Does not consider your feelings before acting.
Does not consider their own future feelings before acting.
Is insecure and defensive and finds it hard to admit mistakes, express remorse, or apologize sincerely.
Avoids responsibility by saying things like: "What was I supposed to do? I had no choice!
Holds many distorted and self-destructive beliefs which cause persistent negative emotions
May be overly pessimistic; may invalidate others' joy.
Or may be overly optimistic, to the point of being unrealistic and invalidating of others' legitimate fears.
Frequently feels inadequate, disappointed, resentful, bitter or victimized.
Locks himself into courses of action against common sense, or jumps ship at the first sight of trouble.
Avoids connections with people and seeks substitute relationships with everything from pets and plants to imaginary beings.
Rigidly clings to his beliefs because he is too insecure to be open to new facts.
Can tell you the details of an event, and what they think about it, but can't tell you how she feels about it.
Uses his intellect to judge and criticize others without realizing he is feeling superior, judgmental, critical, and without awareness of how his actions impact others' feelings.
Is a poor listener. Interrupts. Invalidates. Misses the emotions being communicated. Focusses on "facts" rather than feelings.

Adapted from EQ for Everybody by Steve Hein, 1996,

Lovely couple

2012-01-10T22:11:00.000-08:00

"Love Not War" Dawn Richard & Kaleena

2012-01-10T21:54:00.000-08:00

"Love Not War" Dawn Richard & Kaleena- Dirty money (new song 2009) from Danity Kane

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4HFmK2PP6g

Why SO ANGRY

2011-12-24T22:30:00.001-08:00

Love SIGNs

2011-12-24T22:15:00.001-08:00

Damn! - English has changed so much!!!!!

2011-12-18T00:07:00.000-08:00

When I was 20 -
Rubber meant eraser,
Ass meant donkey,
Gay meant happy,
Straight meant linear,
Making out meant 'logical detection',
Cock meant rooster,
Pussy meant cat,
Stag meant a male deer,
Prick meant a jab,
Poke meant a nudge,
Chick meant a baby hen,
Screw meant a carpenter's implement and
A Tit was always for Tat!!

Damn! - English has changed so much!!!!!
Or, is it that I have not changed enough ?

The Pieces of Soul

2011-12-01T23:33:00.001-08:00

The Pieces of Soul

Aiyanna By Aiyanna, 25th Aug 2011

The twin souls were cruelly torn apart and scattered around all around The Land of Mystery. They painfully gathered every part of their souls to cleanse and integrate them together as one for their little Sun Ray.

The Land of Mystery All For Love - L-O-V-E.

It was Painful but we Finally Made It
Tahatan and Aiyanna Together Forever
Tahatan and Aiyanna Together Forever

The Spirit Mother gathered the coveted soul,
Nurtured and nourished to make him whole.
For Tahatan was one now with the Universe,
He did in love with Nature to all converse.

He worked with the Angel of Creation in love,
Stranger now Tahatan was crowned from Above.
Bringing the praises to the Golden Upper Crest,
Gave thanks to the Universe for the life blest.

He had fallen for his soulful part,
Whom he loved within his heart.
She was too young to be with him,
But in the Universe, they were team.

She is Einsame Aiyanna eternal and whole,
Enchanting Planet Earth with the musical soul.
Filling life with the great Anthem of love,
The Greatest gift from the One Above.

Oh dear this soul has love in her heart,
Something she does want to truly impart.
Hark she has several mysterious threads,
That plagued her life with untold dreads.

She has to cleanse those painful parts,
With dreams of love that wams hearts.
To feel the passion that surges her veins,
Loving heart through loving angelic strains.

Then Tahatan can be with the one he loves,
The girl of his dreams who adorns gloves.
She is awaiting the joys on a bank afar,
Gazing opposite at her Immortal Star.

Her name is Aiyanna, his Eternal rose,
Who loves him eternally in love glows.
She cares for his life with all her heart,
She wished for his life when he did part.

For he told the world Heaven Can Wait,
All of Creation heard and didn't hesitate.
For Mother Earth he sang his voice heard,
For he praised her beauty, the mortal herd.

He went back to his love forever to stay.
Through throngs of happiness everyday.
He touched her son through her hand,
It soared his spirit felt so very grand.

It was his spirit son he had wished in love,
Little angel who went missing from up Above.
He had walked into that life's mortal oven,
To No More Darkness a baby was given.

From smoldering ashes she again rose,
Kept her little Angel under her nose.
To be the sunshine when skies are grey,
Tahatan was back in her heart to stay.

Together they hovered to hold him tight,
Praying to Creation he would turn out right.
For she was the mortal mother of his son,
The one he longed for, his precious one.

Born to a father whom she married in life,
But had disappeared causing pain and strife.
Down to the burrows in the Land of Misery,
Becoming the anthem of hate's treasury.

For all he wanted to to take the son,
The felial legacy for heritage run.
But never did he want to love his wife,
Even tried to kill her with his carving knife.

From Creation above came heaven's angel,
To hold her hand and ascend her as well.
To keep her close not to give up the fight,
He blest her with gift of immortal foresight.

She built herself an armour of divine light,
To keep them safe through dead of night.
To ward off spirits that were evil and hurt,
And the sordid ones who sniffed out dirt.

In jealousy they tore Tahatan and her apart,
Toying with things that wrenched their heart.
She cried and screamed in pain and tears,
He held her close to help calm her fears.

Gently guiding her through the world around,
Transforming her taking her to hallowed ground.
She was one with him in love forever,
Helped many cross the Memory Lethe River.

She worked tirelessly with his anthem of love,
As he looked on in patience from Above.
I am watching you defeat the rest,
Will make you my love better than best.

To be in love together one forever,
I'll come to you from across the river.
Angel of Creation took over the part,
He ruled and governed matters of heart.

Enhanced her to be better than the best,
To rise above empowered from mortal rest.
Gave her the anthem to make her smile,
Revamped and changed all her style.

To bring her to life with a heart of love,
Filled with passion from Above.
Teased her filled her with the Golden Ray,
Kissed her caressed her just everyday.

In love she blossomed into the Rose,
With the Sunflower Orchid in flows.
Becoming One with the Universe Around,
In anthems of praise to him resound.

Slowly her returned to whisper to her,
To tell her his life, and feelings stir.
To become her partner throughout life,
Tahatan made Aiyanna his wedded wife.

Together they taught Sun Ray of Nature and trees,
The beauty of life love Creations's mysteries.
To enhance and educate the artistic hand,
With the love created in immortal silver sand.

Together they created messages of love,
Bringing in entreaties directly from Above.
Through the crystal realms and mindful art,
He spoke and touched the recesses of heart.

With Golden wings of passion he made her fly,
To walk on water, navigate the sky.
While he lovingly watched his Sun Ray learn,
To become the best that anyone could discern.

Tahatan had come back to her forever to stay,
They had ordained to change world that way.
It was his magic that united this world,

Searching for all the pieces of soul,
To join them and make them whole.
For once it was done, it was beyond compare,
The love, the passion the twin souls share.

Aiyanna and Tahatan blended into one,
To become the Anthem of joy to the Sun.
Together rising above joy and sorrow,
Becoming the promise of another tomorrow.

By Anisha Achankunju (C) 30th June 2011

Thinner Wife Makes Happier Marriage

2011-12-01T23:12:00.001-08:00

photo: iStockPhoto

Thinner Wife Makes Happier Marriage
Marriages are happier when wives are thinner than their husbands, according to a new study. Researchers at the University of Tennessee studied the BMI (body mass index, a common measure of obesity) of nearly 170 newlywed couples, along with their marital satisfaction over time.

Andrea Meltzer, the lead author and a doctoral candidate at UT, told Discovery News that "We found this effect initially on husbands' satisfaction at the beginning of marriage... husbands were more satisfied at the time of marriage to the extent that their wives had a lower BMI than themselves."

The fact that men tend to be happier with a thinner wife may not be surprising, but Meltzer and her colleagues also found that women who had a lower BMI than their husbands were significantly more satisfied with their marriage over time. Thinner wives make both spouses happier.

NEWS: Most Women Would Not Trade Anything to Be Thin

"Wives are happier to the extent that their husbands are happy," Meltzer explained. "If we were looking at another quality that was more important to women than men -- say, economic resources -- we might see opposite effects. Women might be more satisfied to the extent that their partners are making more money than they are."

"This study is important because it demonstrates that women of any size can be happy in their relationships with the right partner. It's not necessarily striving for thinness per se, but striving to be thinner than their partner," Meltzer said.

Thus overweight or obese women (which, statistically, is the majority of women in America) seeking a happy marriage might choose a heavier husband, or else choose an average-weight partner and lose enough weight that they are thinner by comparison.

Body size is only one of many factors that contribute to overall marriage satisfaction, though it does seem to be important to both men and women.

The preference for thinner partners goes both ways, of course. It's not just guys looking for a thin girlfriend or wife: Studies show that both men and women across the board express a strong preference for thinner partners. Another possible factor behind the findings (besides attractiveness) is that marital satisfaction is also correlated with partner health.

Who said Poetry was Boring??

2011-11-20T20:05:00.000-08:00

Who said Poetry was Boring??
Here's your smile for today!!

My darling, my lover, my beautiful wife:
Marrying you has screwed up my life.

I see your face when I am dreaming.
That's why I always wake up screaming.

Kind, intelligent, loving and hot;
This describes everything you are not.

Love may be beautiful, love may be bliss,
But I only slept with you 'cause I was pissed.

I thought that I could love no other
that is, until I met your brother.

Roses are red, violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you.
But the roses are wilting, the violets are dead, the sugar bowl's empty, and so is your head.

I want to feel your sweet embrace;
But don't take that paper bag off your face.

I want to feel your sweet embrace;
But don't take that paper bag off your face.

I love your smile, your face, and your eyes.
Damn, I'm good at telling lies!

My love, you take my breath away.
What have you stepped in to smell this way?

My feelings for you no words can tell,
Except for maybe 'Go to hell.'

What inspired this amorous rhyme?
Two parts vodka, one part lime.

NOW WHO SAID POETRY IS BORING

Good ONES ..

2011-10-28T21:40:00.000-07:00

Why are wives more dangerous than the Mafia? The mafia wants either ur money or life... The wives want both!

Marriage is like a public toilet Those waiting outside are desperate to get in & Those inside are desperate to come out.

No Man Can Ever Be Satisfied
with 4 things in life.
(1) Mobile
(2) Automobile
(3) TV
(4) Wife
Because there is always a better model in neighborhood.

Searching these keywords on Google `How to tackle wife?`
Google search result, `Good day sir, Even we are searching`.

Compromising does not mean you are wrong and your wife is right. It
only means that the safety of your head is much more important than your ego!

Imagine living with 3 wives in one compound and never leaving the house for 5 years.Osama Bin Laden must have called the US Navy Seals himself!

Whisky is a brilliant invention. One double and you start feeling single again.

A friend recently explained why he refuses to get married.
He says the wedding rings look like miniature handcuffs.

It is said that when a woman closes her eyes, she sees the person she is in love the most; and when a man does that... the slide show begins.

It takes thousand workers 2 build a castle, Million soldiers to protect a country, but just One woman 2 make a Happy Home --------- A Good Maid! Ask Arnold Schwarzenegger!!!

Funny quote on a husband`s T-Shirt:
All girls are devils,
but my wife is the queen of them.

Love signs

2011-10-20T01:40:00.001-07:00

jokes...Bush

2011-10-20T01:31:00.000-07:00

I catch Early Worm...

2011-10-12T22:25:00.001-07:00

GET A LIFE: Be true to self

2011-10-11T00:07:00.000-07:00

GET A LIFE: Be true to self
2011/09/24
TESSIE LIM

Read more: GET A LIFE: Be true to self http://www.nst.com.my/nst/articles/GETALIFE_Betruetoself/Article#.Tn7oYJ0rAcY.email#ixzz1aSFfWsRA

THIS week, I’ve thought a lot about why people get angry. I’m curious. Why do we get offended so easily? What are we attempting to accomplish when we say unkind, sarcastic, insulting things in retaliation? How much revenge is enough?
I’ve observed some cases where people don’t seem to know when to stop!

Are there really only two answers — yes and no? Only two sides — right and wrong or two colours — black and white? Are we such primitive beings that we cannot entertain two or more concepts at the same time... without personalising? Does everything always have to be about us?

How many of us can consider the situation from the other person’s viewpoint?

How often do you take the organisational perspective, and then look at universal ramifications? Most of us rage ahead simply because Ego must speak first. Ego must speak loudest!

Swiss psychologist Carl Jung spoke about our “shadow”. He said that individually and collectively, we have repressed a huge amount of guilt and shame about ourselves. Our fear of facing our weaknesses is so strong that we often project our faults onto others, we make them wrong for whatever it is we hate in ourselves.

This is commonly seen in societies, even countries where people wage war on others, accuse and attack them for what turns out to be a reflection of their own crimes and indiscretions. I’m thinking the United States, Iraq, Guantanamo Bay and weapons of mass destruction. I’m thinking religious fundamentalism. What are you thinking?

The map is not the territory. The menu is not the meal. Although of the same species, our thinking can be totally different. Perceptions, prejudices, interpretations, assumptions, expectations, deletions, generalisations, distortions occur naturally simply because we value things differently.

The meaning of our communication is the response we get. Ever done something you thought would blow your partner’s mind only to find that they blew their top instead? We may set out with the best intentions but there’s no surefire
way to guarantee how others receive our message, is there?

What do we do when situations don’t go according to (our) plan?

Some folks behave like (self-appointed) movie directors. They believe they decide what roles people should play. In their mind, every “actor” must perform according to their script.

And when we don’t get our way, like spoilt children, we pout, blame, withhold, criticise and bad-mouth. Like bullies, we want to win (over the weak?) How come we interpret every victory, benefit or success that someone else receives as something that’s taken from us? When others do better, we see it as a threat, our sense of self is diminished.

Those who have limited ability to think, communicate, collaborate and resolve differences end up getting angry. Those who have a fragile sense of who they are and what they’re actually capable of, get angry. Self-assured souls have nothing to prove. They are unshakeable, un-insult-able. Check yourself. How often do you get defensive... or aggressive? The more uncertain we are about ourselves, the more sensitive we become to those around us, and the more we try to be someone we’re not. We become very concerned about what others think about us, and we continually seek approval from everyone around us. As a result, we become susceptible to guilt, shame and humiliation.

What stops us from just allowing people to be who they are? Instead of working so hard to control, why can’t we just let go, relax, accept and appreciate? When are we going to notice that we’re all so different and yet alike in that we all want power to make our own choices, each one fighting for the freedom of self-expression?

The whole thing is about integrity and being our real and actual selves. In essence we are pure potential.

Everything that is not about love comes from fear. Anger comes from fear. When we are untrue, we begin to sell ourselves short. The only way to restore our integrity is to reclaim our true selves.

When commitment is lacking

I HAVE problems managing my staff. I’m a senior manager with more than 20 years experience as a leader and yet people still baffle me with their excuses and failure to commit to what is obviously good for their own careers. Why should I push and train them when they themselves don’t care?

There’s no magic fix for employee performance problems. Every situation is unique to the individual. However, here are some common reasons for performance problems. Firstly, people can’t find meaning in their work that connects them to what they want in real life. As such, they lack motivation.

Secondly, people know what to do but don’t know how to do it. Their pride prevents them from asking for guidance and direction.

Thirdly, people think they are already performing at acceptable levels, so if you approach them without clear criteria for measuring quality, they resist.

Also, the system is set up so that people can “get away” with non-performance.

In fact, there’s not much recognition for good performance anyway.

Lastly, many things are outside what the employees can control. These issues interfere — such as the number of meetings in a day, etc. This saps energy, focus and concentration.

Here are questions to help you decide what next: 1. What do you want to achieve as leader/manager in your organisation? 2. If you achieved that, what else becomes possible for you? 3. When do you want this by? 4. What qualities in yourself must you access, so that success is smooth and certain?

Notice I’ve stayed focused on you — your capability, purpose and intentions.

Because you want the best for yourself, because you know you have the experience and the expertise to produce a greater outcome... for yourself. How differently would you now lead and behave so that those employee performance issues are overcome?

Feeding into insecurity

WHEN it comes to my husband, my skills in engagement goes to pieces! I think it’s because I put him on a pedestal. I need his approval so much that I find it hard to be myself when I’m in his company. But I can’t bear to lose him. What should I do?

Do you love your husband? Does your husband love you? I know, what a horrible thing to ask. Just a reminder though, to make sure you stay true to your vows... “To love for better or worse, richer or poorer...”
Why then would you live in fear of losing him?

Here’s what I would say to women I care about: Find a partner with whom you feel good about yourself. Find someone who inspires you to be better than you already are. If we’ve chosen to be with someone we’re so afraid of losing, what does that mean? It seems like our self-image is weak and we need “beefing up” by partnering with someone who is (perceived to be) stronger, better, more worthwhile. We’ve become dependent or entered into a co-dependent relationship where both feed off each other’s insecurities. Certain men feel more “manly” if they had someone “dressing up” for them. Either way, it would be difficult to “live happily ever after.”

Be true to Self, I say. “Why should I do things your way,” you say. Because you’ll find in the end, it’s the only way... to love... and peace.

Read more: GET A LIFE: Be true to self http://www.nst.com.my/nst/articles/GETALIFE_Betruetoself/Article#.Tn7oYJ0rAcY.email#ixzz1aSFcqxQi

Funny Ways

2011-09-29T22:27:00.000-07:00

有意思 nICE wORDS

2011-09-27T00:43:00.000-07:00

有意思 nICE wORDS

Blue - Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word

2011-09-26T23:28:00.001-07:00

Blue - Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word
(Feat. Elton John)

(Sorry seems to be the hardest word)

What I got to do to make you love me?
What I got to do to make you care?
What do I do when lightning strikes me?
And I wake to find that you're not there?

What I got to do to make you want me?
What I got to do to be heard?
What do I say when it's all over?
Sorry seems to be the hardest word.

It's sad, so sad
It's a sad, sad situation.
And it's getting more and more absurd.
It's sad, so sad
Why can't we talk it over?
Oh it seems to me
That sorry seems to be the hardest word.
What do I do to make you want me?
What I got to do to be heard?
What do I say when it's all over?
Sorry seems to be the hardest word.

It's sad, so sad
It's a sad, sad situation.
And it's getting more and more absurd.
It's sad, so sad
Why can't we talk it over?
Oh it seems to me
That sorry seems to be the hardest word.

What I got to do to make you love me?
What I got to do to be heard?
What do I do when lightning strikes me?
What have I got to do?
What have I got to do?
When sorry seems to be the hardest word.

Eagle Story

2011-08-31T23:11:00.000-07:00

TIME DECIDES WHOM YOU MEET IN LIFE. YOUR HEART DECIDES WHOM U WANT IN LIFE, BUT YOUR BEHAVIOUR DECIDES WHO WILL STAY IN YOUR LIFE!

Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens. Not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life! .
A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes.
It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.
Let’s change to make a change!!!

When it rains, most birds head for shelter; the eagle is the only bird that, in order to avoid the rain, starts flying above the cloud....

LOVE

2011-08-30T01:57:00.000-07:00

LOVE…

I LOVE THE CONCEPT OF LOVE
TO BE IN LOVE
TO FEEL LOVE

BUT I HAVE ABUSED THE WORD OF LOVE
USED THE ONE WHO LOVED

I LOVE THE FEELING OF LOVE
THE DEPTH OF LOVE

BUT I HAVE RUINED THE EMOTION OF LOVE
THE SENSITIVITY OF LOVE

I LOVE TO BE TOUCHED BY LOVE
MADE BY LOVE
MAKE LOVE

BUT I HAVE MISTREATED THE CARESS FROM LOVE
THE KISS OF LOVE

I LOVE TO LOVED BY LOVE
BOUND BY LOVE

BUT I HAVE LOST THAT LOVE
I BROKE MY LOVE
AND NEGLECTED OUR LOVE

I LOVE TO PICTURE LOVE
PAINT LOVE

BUT I HAVE DRIED LOVE
STOLEN LOVE

I LOVE TO WALK WITH LOVE
TALK TO ME LOVE
SAY IT AGAIN LOVE
OVER AND OVER…LOVE
BUT I HAVE RAN FROM LOVE
MUTED THE WORD LOVE
AGAIN AND AGAIN…LOVE

I LOVE TO LOVE YOU STILL LOVE
FEEL LOVE
HEAR LOVE
SPEAK LOVE

LOVE ME LOVE
LOVE MY KIND OF LOVE
LOVE THIS LOVE
LOVE…LOVE…LOVE...

I AM LOVE…

Storms of Life

2011-08-22T23:46:00.000-07:00

Storms of Life

A lady was driving along with her father.
They came upon a storm, and the young lady asked her father, What should I do?"

He said "keep driving".. Cars began to pull over to the side, the storm was getting worse.

"What should I do." The young lady asked?

"Keep driving," her father replied.

On up a few feet, she noticed that eighteen wheelers were also pulling over. She told her dad, "I must pull over, I can barely see ahead. It is terrible, and everyone is pulling over!"

Her father told her, "Don't give up, just keep driving!"

Now the storm was terrible, but she never stopped driving, and soon she could see a little more clearly. After a couple of miles she was again on dry land, and the sun came out.

Her father said, "Now you can pull over and get out."

She said "But why now?"

He said "When you get out, look back at all the people that gave up and are still in the storm, because you never gave up your storm is now over.

This is a testimony for anyone who is going through "hard times".

Just because everyone else, even the strongest, gives up.
You don't have to...if you keep going, soon your storm
will be over and the sun will shine upon your face again.

This story inspired me! I hope it inspired you!

A kiss

2011-08-22T23:42:00.000-07:00

A man's kiss is his signature.
Mae West

Actually, I've only been involved with one girl I worked with. It was Alyssa Milano. We didn't actually have an onscreen kiss - we're about to but it gets broken up.
Scott Wolf

After I saw Kiss on stage, I wanted my show to look like the fourth of July. The persona of Rick James was wild and crazy, sex, drugs and rock and roll.
Rick James

Alcohol is like love. The first kiss is magic, the second is intimate, the third is routine. After that you take the girl's clothes off.
Raymond Chandler

Always kiss your children goodnight, even if they're already asleep.
H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
People think, 'Wow, you're an actress, so people must be really nice to you and kiss your ass.' NOBODY kisses my ass.
Alicia Silverstone

Publication is to thinking as childbirth is to the first kiss.
Karl Wilhelm Friedrich Schlegel

Reason is a supple nymph, and slippery as a fish by nature. She had as leave give her kiss to an absurdity any day, as to syllogistic truth. The absurdity may turn out truer.
David Herbert Lawrence

Rock 'n' roll is ridiculous. It's absurd. In the past, U2 was trying to duck that. Now we're wrapping our arms around it and giving it a great big kiss.
Bono

She felt like a chess player who, by the clever handling of his pieces, sees the game taking the course intended. Her eyes were bright and tender with a smile as they glanced up into his; and her lips looked hungry for the kiss which they invited.
Kate Chopin

Since there's no help, come let us kiss and part.
Michael Drayton

Some are kissing mothers and some are scolding mothers, but it is love just the same, and most mothers kiss and scold together.
Pearl S. Buck

Sometimes you really dig a girl, the moment you kiss her, And then you get distracted by her older sister.
John Sebastian

Still, as much as I wish Ballistic Kiss could be a better film, the recognition it gained from critics and at festivals speaks for itself.
Donnie Yen

That was really cool. I got to kiss a little boy. I was 7 and he was 10, and his name is Thomas Curtis. He was the first boy I've ever kissed in my entire life and he was three years older than me.
Dakota Fanning

That's what Kiss is all about - not just music, but entertainment, y'know? We're there to take you away from your problems, and rock and roll all night and party every day for those two hours you're at the concert.
Ace Frehley

The best part is it's a dream come true. I've always wanted to be a working actor, and the good part of it... it's all good! I work long hours, but it's amazing. They pay me. That's amazing! I get to kiss Keri Russell, and that ain't too bad.
Scott Foley

The bottom line is the Kiss Army is growing by leaps and bounds.
Ace Frehley

The cool kindliness of sheets, that soon smooth away trouble; and the rough male kiss of blankets.
Rupert Brooke

The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender.
Emil Ludwig

The English say, Yours Truly, and mean it. The Italians say, I kiss your feet, and mean, I kick your head.
Wilfred Owen

The fathers, if they got me alone, would try to kiss and fondle me. I hated it.
Christine Keeler

The first kiss between two people is something really good in life.
Juliana Hatfield

The first kiss I had was the most disgusting thing in my life. The girl injected about a pound of saliva into my mouth, and when I walked away I had to spit it all out.
Leonardo DiCaprio

The guys in Kiss use some make up too so at first it was exiting. I've almost stopped using make-up nowadays.
Ville Valo

I have never been sexually aroused by a man. But I have yet to kiss Johnny Depp, so you never know.
Dave Navarro

I kiss the soil as if I placed a kiss on the hands of a mother, for the homeland is our earthly mother. I consider it my duty to be with my compatriots in this sublime and difficult moment.
Pope John Paul II

I know one man who was impotent who gave AIDS to his wife and the only thing they did was kiss.
Pat Robertson

I like meeting all my fans and signing autographs, although it can all get a bit crazy. Yesterday, for example, a boy just came over and planted a big kiss on my face! I was like, 'Hello?'
Britney Spears

I prefer a kiss that is so much more than just a tongue in your mouth.
Katherine Heigl

I remember doing the sex scene in Red Rock West. I had to kiss Nic Cage and then look like I was going down on him. And he couldn't do anything - he just had to lie there.
Lara Flynn Boyle

I said 'well, I'll kiss her twice, you see? We'll come around, I'll kiss her, and if you put a little more track down for the camera, then I'll put my tongue down her throat and you'll get what you want'. He said 'You think so?'
Rod Steiger

I think most of the people, once you see a Kiss show, you kinda get spoiled because I don't think there's anybody out there that's doing a bigger or a better show than us.
Ace Frehley

I think of these things as obstacles rather than opportunities, because if they were opportunities it means I actually took the business of doing them seriously. To take myself too seriously is the gentle kiss of death.
Leon Redbone

I think the fact that I'm so well known to be gay makes it very difficult to have a convincing relationship with a woman on screen. It wouldn't be at all difficult for me to kiss a woman - I'll kiss a frog if you like.
Stephen Fry

I thought it was my job to give all the boys their first kiss.
Jessica Alba

I try to do something the audience might not have seen before. Like if I'm gonna kiss a girl I wanna kiss her like a girl has never been kissed. Like maybe I would kick her legs out from under her and catch her right before she hits the ground and then kiss her.
Jim Carrey

I want a kiss to be so believable it give the reader shivers.
Laurell K. Hamilton

I want so much for my lover. At night when our beds are drawn close together I waken and see his dear yellow head on the pillow - sometimes his arm thrown over on my bed - and I kiss his hand, very softly so that it will not waken him.
Dawn Powell

I was shortly again at the castle, and the Princess gave me her hand to kiss and then brought her children, the young princes and princesses, and we played together, as if we had known each other for years.
Max Muller

I wished that I could have been down there because Paul actually wanted me to do the tour with him, but then he realized that it just wouldn't be right. It wouldn't be a solo tour anymore. It would look like just half of KISS.
Eric Carr

I would kiss you, had I the courage.
Edouard Manet

I'd kiss a frog even if there was no promise of a Prince Charming popping out of it. I love frogs.
Cameron Diaz

I'd luv to kiss ya, but I just washed my hair.
Bette Davis

I've known Emma Watson since she was 9, we've watched each other grow up, formed this sort of brother/sister bond, and suddenly I'm leaning in to kiss her. Well, it felt completely wrong... but, you know, you try to sink into the character and divorce yourself from it. We ended up laughing hysterically afterwards.
Rupert Grint

R u Hot sex fairy?

2011-08-22T23:27:00.001-07:00

Your Gruesome Game

2011-07-31T00:25:00.000-07:00

Your Gruesome Game
Created by lovesnocure

I can’t take the screaming,

The unending fights,

The restlessness,

Of empty nights.

The tears you’re crying,

In your destructive war,

You’re destroying each other,

Because you don’t care anymore.

You kill each other,

Known notoriously,

Because you’re both dying,

To win victoriously.

And as you scar each other,

What you don’t seem to see,

Is how you’re both,

Scarring me.

I cry too,

Seeing you hurt,

You push each other,

Down into the dirt.

If this is a fairytale,

If this is love,

Then love is one thing,

I won’t ever be victim of.

And neither of you,

Feel ashamed,

Because you’re both dying to win,

This gruesome game.

What is here,

A fact apparently unknown,

Is that neither of you will win,

Until you are both alone.

But neither players,

Admit defeat or tie,

Because both challengers,

Are clinging to pride.

So play your game,

“Til death do you part,”

Because your wager has become,

My crumbling heart.

http://quizilla.teennick.com/poems/19254904/your-gruesome-game

Love Flower

2011-07-31T00:18:00.000-07:00

Confusion

2011-07-31T00:14:00.001-07:00

Confusion!
Created by Samanthatwix
http://quizilla.teennick.com/poems/19329448/confusion

Confusion

Agitation

Running into my life

I don’t really know

But, it’s causing frustration

Even when I’m all alone

My thoughts are full of distraction

Confusion

Conviction

Knowing that my thoughts are full

Now I understand

This will go away once I find the

Inspiration to my frustration

Confusion

Temptation

Will it ever stop?

I can’t believe its illusion

I know why I’m so confused

Just how do I deal?

I need some motivation

Love is hugging and kissing...

2011-07-31T00:04:00.001-07:00

Love is hugging and kissing, Love is holding each other, Love is giving her your jacket when she's cold, Love is laying your head on his chest when he places his arm around your shoulder,Love is patient and kind it is gentle, Love is not rushing,but slow easing into things,Love is loving their company and not what is under their clothes, Love is loving them no matter what others think,Love is never giving up on your hopes and dreams and helping others reach theirs,Love is everything it is our everyday life, Love is a smile or a wave one simple thing could make someones day, And you wouldn't even know it.

Live every moment...

2011-07-31T00:00:00.000-07:00

hate on me

2011-07-30T23:22:00.001-07:00

Jill Scott - Hate on Me
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qw3Z8Oa7E3Y

Blue October - Hate Me
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xogOqnMQdy8

Colour Purple

2011-07-29T22:34:00.000-07:00

The Effects of the Color Purple
How the color purple affects us mentally and physically

-Uplifting
-Calming to mind and nerves
-Offers a sense of spirituality
-Encourages creativity

Fun Facts About the Color Purple
Purple represents the planet Jupiter.

February is the month associated with the color purple and the birthstone for those born is February is Amethyst.

Purple Stones: Amethyst, Ametrine, Sugilite, Lavender Jade, Sugilite, Selenite, Iolite, Lavender Quartz, Lepidolite.

In 1999, formal moral majority spokesman Reverand Jerry Farwell, came out publicly against the children's show Teletubbies. He believed that it's character "Tinky-Winky" was gay-- stating that he was purple- the colour of gay pride and that his antennae was triangle shaped- the symbol of gay pride.

In stained glass the color purple or violet are seen as the uniting of the "wisdom" of blue and the "love" of red and symbolizesr justice and of royalty.

Purple and our sense of smell
Lavender: The soft scent of fresh-cut Lavender. The scent of Lavender is said to be stress reducing. A wonderful scent for all year round. Aromatherapy benefits: Balancing, soothing, gently clarifying, normalizing. -Scent It.com
"Grape" was the original scent of the purple colored Magic Scents Crayons from Binney & Smith Inc., introduced in 1994 with mostly food scents. However, there were numerous reports that children were eating the food-scented crayons, so the food scents were retired and replaced with non-food scents. The scent for the color purple became "lilac."
For perfume makers, "lavender is a plant which in and of itself has an outstanding olfactory quality." It certainly appears that lavender counts as one of the most ancient elements used in perfumed products.
Lavender was immensely popular during the 19th century and introduced men to the world of perfume, heretofore reserved for women, with classic lavender waters such as English Lavender by Atkinson’s and Old English Lavender by Yardley. Visit Les Routes de la Lavende to read more about French lavender and plan your dream trip to Provence.
Nothing can compare to the delicious scent of sweet violets in the spring.
Wisteria: Romance lingers in this mysterious hanging garden. This scent is remarkable. Great for all year, though especially intoxicating during spring and summer. Very romantic. Aromatherapy benefits: Romantic, sensual, calming, relaxing, anchoring. -Scent it.com

Interesting information about purple

Purple was the color of the first dye made by man. It was called "Mauveine" and was made out of coal tar. The recipe was discovered by William Henry Perkin in 1856.
Purple represents the planet Jupiter.

February is the month associated with the color purple and the birthstone for those born is February is amethyst.

Purple Stones: Amethyst, Ametrine, Sugilite, Lavender Jade, Sugilite, Selenite, Iolite, Lavender Quartz, Lepidolite

The Byzantine emperor signed edicts in purple ink.

Leonardo da Vinci believed that the power of meditation increases ten times when done in a purple light, as in the purple light of stained glass.

In 1999, formal Moral Majority spokesman Reverend Jerry Farwell came out publicly against the children's show Teletubbies. He believed that its character "Tinky-Winky" was gay, stating that he was purple - the color of gay pride - and that his antennae was a triangle - the symbol of gay pride.

The poem "Warning" by English poet Jenny Joseph begins with the line "When I am an old woman I shall wear purple..." The poem and its famous purple line has become a tongue-in-cheek reference to a woman's struggle with aging.

Purple is the color of Madison Square Garden and seating for VIP's was once covered in purple.

Purple is the color of the highest denomination poker chip = $5,000

During the Silver Age of comic books, those with purple on their covers sold better.
In stained glass, the color purple or violet is seen as uniting the "wisdom" of blue and the "love" of red and symbolizes justice and royalty.

The "Purple Orchid Three" is a sweet potato grown by its Hainan developers from seeds taken into space in 2005 on China's "Shenzhou VI" rocket.

“DON’T HAVE NEEDS!”

2011-07-05T22:49:00.000-07:00

“DON’T HAVE NEEDS!”
We feel shame when:
● anyone gets too close, emotionally
● we allow ourselves feelings of love for someone
● anyone shows us kindness, respect, caring
● do something a little foolish in public
● we try something new, & don’t get it right away
● if don’t try to do something, whether we can or not
● we find out our expectations of someone are not realistic
● we don’t know something which seems common knowledge
● we want to be paid attention to, but get smacked down or ignored, etc.

Re: ANY NEED that was ignored, abused or made fun of in the past :
• it’ll now be completely suppressed, so we’re not even aware of it, OR
• we’ll try to get the need met in a VERY DYSFUNCTIONAL way (so it can be
punished, hurt us, have bad consequences, denied to us), OR
• we wait endlessly for someone else to come along & notice that we have needs – as long as we DO NOT ask for them to be met
• we manipulate dysfunctional others into providing them for us
• we cannot receive anything good without somehow having to ‘pay’ for it, even
when it is given freely & without strings !
• we mistreat, abuse or leave anyone who treats us with respect & kindness
• we prevent anyone from know that we have needs, & so suffer in silence

RECOVERY from SHAME:
This a deep & long process, for which we need much help from a Higher Power & knowledgeable, patient people. More specifically, we want to
✶ Start by identifying all our NEEDS, common to all human beings, & which are the foundation, the roots of our human-ness
✶ continually give ourselves permission to HAVE these needs
✶ list which ones were not allowed, in order of intensity
✶ identify actions & non-actions which prevent meeting those needs correctly
✶ list action to DO, in order to meet those needs
✶ identify people, places & things who can help with this
✶ patiently, slowly RISK changing our old patterns
✶ allow for emotional discomfort, internal backlash, being
confused, scared, angry, discouraging comments from others,
regressing to old ways, frustrating delays, etc.
✶ NEVER STOP TRYING to improve ways to meet our needs:
• try out new actions to see what works or doesn’t
• observe the results of the healthier actions, & compare to old outcomes
• validate & reinforce any improvements & positive results
• ask appropriate people for help when we really need it
• read helpful material, attend suitable recovery programs or groups
• participate in any spiritual practice which is comfortable
• AND NEVER, NEVER deny having NEEDS, whether we can get them met - or not. They are our BIRTHRIGHT.

http://acoarecovery.wordpress.com/2010/07/03/what-is-shame-3/

No MORE Hate

2011-07-05T22:47:00.000-07:00

Love, dog and a proud owner

2011-06-27T02:25:00.000-07:00

Love, dog and a proud owner
Published on: February 22, 2011 - 23:38

By Anuradha Das | NT NETWORK
The domestication of the canine species is probably the best thing that happened to the human race. And those of us who love our canine friends will heartily vouch for that, for it truly an example of pure unconditional love.

It can probably be said that a master will never love his dog to the extent his dog loves him.
Man has his own selfish reasons for keeping a pet – and even love can be a selfish emotion.
The dog gives the master pleasure, and if it is an exotic pedigree dog we are talking about, fills him with pride at his ownership. But the dog unfailing and unflinchingly loves his owner, unconditionally.
Is ‘pedigree’ really the key word in pet rearing? Frankly, no. A dog is a dog is a dog whether an Alsatian or a mongrel. The love is the same, the devotion as unwavering. Then why is it that when left with the choice of adopting a stray or buying an expensive-through-the-nose dog we chose the later. Is it not a little affected on our part?
When you come home to excited yaps and whines and put up with all the doggy breath and saliva that is joyously and liberally slathered all over you, when you cosy up with a book in the evenings and the dog cosies up at your feet, when you are emotionally down and you canine companion lays his head on your lap to commiserate with you, when you are playfully and coyly invited but the same pet to a game of fetch or for a good soul-satisfying back scratch, do you then stop to think, even for a moment, of the pedigree?
No. Love is all that counts.
And there are plenty of dogs out there who could do with a small dose of loving; dogs who have become stray or have been born stray. On a day when you the reader have the opportunity, make the time and visit a dog pound and see the need of these hapless animals locked up in small cages. There they will remain till someone takes them home for they cannot be left to roam free in the world that is as much theirs as it is ours.
These would be the emotional arguments for adopting a stray. But there are the logical more points to the case too.
Experts like Dr Gustav Pinto, veterinarian, and Dr Astride G Almeida, veterinary director, International Animal Rescue, will emphatically point out to the more practical reasons for adopting a stray. Say they, in unequivocal agreement, that “these dogs are best suited for our climate and area” describing them as hardier and more intelligent.
Furthermore, Dr Pinto points out that these dog, if left on the streets, can also become a nuisance and hence it makes more sense to put them in a animal rescue pound from where, hopefully, they will be taken into loving homes that don’t mind adopting a pet.
“There is increased awareness about adopting strays today,” inform Dr Astride, “and sometimes we have 2-3 people coming in to pick up pets, but overall we home less than one dog a day,” this because they are as finicky about the prospective owners as the owners are about the pets. “Something as simple as the person holding the dog gingerly, refusing to give it a cuddle is a dead giveaway to what the future holds for the dog in that particular person’s house,” says Dr Astride.
Pleading for the case of the stray Dr Pinto say “don’t encourage commercialism” these are our dogs and there is no risk in adopting them.
Of course, if you are picking one straight off the streets, which many a Good Samaritan do, then do think of quarantining the animal for a few days though these dogs are more vigorous of health and less prone to diseases.
Do give love a chance.

My love of food

2011-06-17T00:56:00.001-07:00

Nothing is Impossible in Life

2011-06-16T21:47:00.000-07:00

Spiritual Benefits of Lighting Candles

2011-06-07T20:29:00.000-07:00

Spiritual Benefits of Lighting Candles
by Sylvia Browne

Do you love candles? Many people do! I know that I have often benefited from the spiritual energy that candles possess. Lighting a candle is an ideal way to make saying your affirmations or positive thoughts even stronger. You can create your own special spiritual exercise or ritual that has great meaning to you. It is important to focus on your spirituality and to spend time increasing your positive energy.

What is the meaning of candles? Candles have been used by religions and spiritual groups around the world for centuries. Many light candles to remember a loved one who is now on The Other Side. Candles are used to celebrate and used for special ceremonies. It is no surprise that candles themselves represent unity, peace and love.

One way to use candles is to light a candle as you say your affirmations. Affirmations are defined as positive thoughts that you wish to bring into your conscious world. Many like to think of this as a positive thinking exercise. Saying your affirmations with a lit candle can help make this an even more special time for you. You can say affirmations for any purpose: health, abundance, relationships/love, career, success and anything you desire in your life. Simply create a statement that is positive that you would like to attract. Light your candle and focus on your affirmations.

When you light a candle, this is also an ideal time to surround yourself with God’s white light. This white light is available for each and every one of us, simply by requesting it. This white light is actually God’s sacred aura. You can feel God’s love and compassion whenever you need it the most—or just everyday! A wonderful ritual is lighting a candle and asking for God’s white light to surround you.

Many people like to burn a candle for love or for relationships. Burning a rose-scented candle is ideal for love and romance as you say these heart-felt prayers. You can also burn a candle for your family. Consider burning a candle for every member of your family at the very same time! These are wonderful rituals to honor and treasure your relationships. Surround your loved ones with God’s white light as you pray.

People are often drawn to various colors of candles to use for different purposes. Just as the rose-scented candle is ideal for love and romance, you may feel other candles are ideal for other prayers and purposes. What someone else says about the color is less important than what you yourself feel about the candle’s color. Hold the candle and just feel if this candle is right for this specific intention. Know that you will always choose exactly the right candle.

Love always,

Sylvia Browne

P.S. Lighting candles is a wonderful ritual. Bring candles into your life with my book Light a Candle. Learn how candles can bring warmth and joy into your world.

http://www.spiritnow.com/article/sylvia-browne/the_benefits_of_lighting_a_candle_54

Make pleasant life after retirement

2011-05-29T23:11:00.000-07:00

Make pleasant life after retirement

Make pleasant life

after retirement

*1. *Never say ‘I am aged': There are three ages, chronological, biological, and psychological. The first is calculated based on our date of birth ; the second is determined by the health conditions and the third is how old you feel you are. While we don't have control over the first, we can take care of our health with good diet, exercise and a cheerful attitude. A positive attitude and optimistic thinking can reverse the third age.

*2. *Health is wealth : If you really love your kith and kin, taking care of your health should be your priority. Thus, you will not be a burden to them. Have an annual health check-up and take the prescribed medicines regularly. Do take health insurance cover.

*3.* Money is important: Money is essential for meeting the basic necessities of life, keeping good health and earning family respect and security. Don't spend beyond your means even for your children. You have lived for them all through and it is time you enjoyed a harmonious life with your spouse. If your children are grateful and they take care of you, you are blessed. But never take it for granted.

*4. *Relaxation and recreation : The most relaxing and recreating forces are a healthy religious attitude, good sleep, music and laughter. Have faith in God, learn to sleep well, love good music and see the funny side of life.

*5. *Time is precious : It is almost like holding a horse's reins. When they are in your hands, you can control them. Imagine that everyday you are born again. Yesterday is a cancelled cheque. Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is ready cash — use it profitably. Live this moment.

*6. *Change is the only permanent thing : We should accept change — it is inevitable. The only way to make sense out of change is to join the dance. Change has brought about many pleasant things. We should be happy that our children are blessed.

*7. *Enlightened selfishness : All of us are basically selfish. Whatever we do, we expect something in return. We should definitely be grateful to those who stood by us. But our focus should be on the internal satisfaction and happiness we derive by doing good to others, without expecting anything in return.

*8. *Forget and Forgive: Don't be bothered too much about others' mistakes. We are not spiritual enough to show our other cheek when we are slapped in one. But for the sake of our own health and happiness, let us forgive and forget them. Otherwise, we will be only increasing our BP.

*9. *Everything has a purpose : Take life as it comes. Accept yourself as you are and also accept others for what they are. Everybody is unique and right in his own way.

*10. *Overcome the fear of death : We all know that one day we have to leave this world. Still we are afraid of death. We think that our spouse and children will be unable to withstand our loss. But the truth is no one is going to die for you ; they may be depressed for some time. Time heals everything and they will carry on.

Love symbols?

2011-05-23T23:23:00.000-07:00

Coconut Tree on the rock

2011-05-17T23:54:00.000-07:00

A senior citizen

2011-05-17T23:53:00.000-07:00

A senior citizen said to his eighty-year old buddy:
'So I hear you're getting married?'
'Yep!'
'Do I know her?'
'Nope!'
'This woman, is she good looking?'
'Not really.'
'Is she a good cook?'
'Naw, she can't cook too well.'
'Does she have lots of money?'
'Nope! Poor as a church mouse.'
'Well, then, is she good in bed?'
'I don't know.'
'Why in the world do you want to marry her then?'
'Because she can still drive!'

I am looking for a husband

2011-05-01T23:36:00.000-07:00

Never do anything

2011-05-01T23:34:00.001-07:00

The People United - one love movement

2011-04-18T00:46:00.001-07:00

The People United

http://onelovemovement.com/our_people

AZI Fellas

One Love Movement organizers and co-founders

www.theazi.com

Vyreak Sovann

Our One Love Movement documentarian

www.vyreak.com

Deported Diaspora

Our sister organizing group in Boston

www.deporteddiaspora.org

The Providence Youth Student Movement (PrYSM)

Our sister organizing group in Providence

www.prysm.us

Southeast Asia Resource Action Center (ARAC)

Our sister policy advocates in DC

www.searac.org

Anti-Deportation Organization

Our social network outreach organizer Tean

http://www.facebook.com/AntiDeportationOrg

Flawless Makeup Artistry

Our One Love Movement promotion team

Flawless Facebook Group

Cambodian Association of Greater Philadelphia (CAGP)

Our constant support and partner in Philly and beyond

www.cagp.org

Asian Americans United (AAU)

Our sister organizing comrades in Philly

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Boat People SOS (BPSOS)

Our Vietnamese sister organizing comrades in Philly

www.bpsos.org

New Sancutuary Movement

Our faith organizer friends and bullhorn supplier

www.sanctuaryphiladelphia.org

Asian Student Association of Philadelphia (ASAP)

Our South Philly student organizer comrades for justice!

ASAP Facebook Group

Students Against Unjust Deportation (SAUD)

Our Central High School team of powerful student organizers!

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Media Mobilizing Project (MMP)

Our friends who give us a voice and tell our untold stories

www.mediamobilizingproject.org

L.O.V.E.

2011-04-06T21:40:00.000-07:00

L.O.V.E.
© Jeremy Vega
L, is for the Laughter I give to you every day
knowing you'll never go away

O, is for the Options we'll have when were together
knowing our love couldn't get any better

V, is for the Visions I have of you
knowing I'll never find anyone quite like you

E, is for Everything that's true I've every said
especially when I said "we'll be together till were dead"

Source: L.O.V.E., Short Love Poems http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/love/poetry.asp?poem=25710#ixzz1IxGVXHhU
Family Friend Poems

Angel

2011-04-03T23:18:00.001-07:00

Unconditional Love Gives You the Power to Heal

2011-03-30T00:00:00.000-07:00

Unconditional Love Gives You the Power to Heal

By HattieMattieMae

Unconditional love gives us the power to heal in many areas of our lives. I can remember all the people that taught me what unconditional love was. They sat their listening to me for endless hours as I sorted out my thoughts and beliefs. They may not always have been the right ones, but they always believed in me, and heard what I had to say.

They gave me their bits of wisdom, and some times told me things I didn't want to hear. But they always did it in a way that didn't leave me with a the feeling that they were judging me or being critical. They seen the best in me, and earned my respect as they earned mine.

Whether it was a professor, friend, or partner, the ones that truly unconditionally loved me accepted me for who I was in the moment, and believed in no matter what obstacle came my way I could beat it.

The ones that love you unconditionally always keep their word, they are reliable, they invest time in you, and hearing you out. They take the time to get to know who you really are. They will be there through the storms of life and never give up on you. They usually have courage to face the ugly things in life, and encourage you to be the best you can be. They will challenge you to be a champion in all your endeavors and goals in life. They will never abuse you, verbally abuse you. They will not take anything from you, or expect anything from you.

Those that unconditionally love you will help you out, or help you seek out solutions to your problems. They will help you and show you the right way to live. They will only give you a healthy out look on life. They won't put drugs in your hands, alcohol, or encourage you to participate in any kind of addiction. They will never ask you to have sex with them, or be self seeking.

They will never find ways to hurt you or make your life intolerable with negative attitudes and words. Unconditional love can be tough, but gentle and soft at the same time. Those that truly care about you will raise the bar and help you to become more of the person you were meant to be. You don't have to live in pain and suffering. You don't have to live in the arguments and pain.

You don't have to suffer all your life, if you choose to take steps to improve your life you know you are on the right track. Even if they are baby steps for the moment keep walking towards those goals and dreams no matter how long it takes you, no matter how old you are, or where you live. It is never to late to try new things, write a new story for you. Things don't have to remain as they were, people can change, and you can change as long as you believe in you.

http://hubpages.com/hub/Unconditional-Love-Gives-You-the-Power-to-Heal

Love Hormones in Romantic Relationships

2011-03-23T23:15:00.000-07:00

Love Hormones in Romantic Relationships
Oxytocin Increases Intimacy & Bonding, Eases Psychological Disorders
Feb 15, 2008

Oxytocin is a brain chemical that mediates social behavior, which is why it’s sometimes called the “love hormone.” Oxytocin is released when mothers and babies first bond; it’s also present in intense emotional states.

This love hormone, oxytocin, also increases intimacy and bonding in romantic relationships.

Researchers are now studying oxytocin to see if it helps treat schizophrenia, autism, anxiety, and other psychological disorders.

How to Increase Love Hormones in Romance

Massage, eye contact, hugs, and orgasms all increase love hormones. A close, loving relationship increases the production of this brain chemical (single men and women produce less oxytocin than those in intimate relationships). Any positive experience can increase oxytocin levels – and so can simply recalling positive events.

Simply put, oxytocin is associated with positive relationships. Nurturing this love hormone may be one of the best ways to say "I love you"!

Oxytocin and Psychological Disorders
Dr Kai MacDonald and other University of California (San Diego) researchers are theorizing that this love hormone could help with psychological disorders. Oxytocin reduces fear, increases eye contact, and increases trust and generosity. This love hormone causes people to act differently – though they don’t necessarily feel different.

How can oxytocin help with psychological disorders? People with schizophrenia or autism often avoid meaningful interactions with others, especially eye contact. People with schizophrenia or other psychological disorders may not trust their doctors, family members, or intimate partners.

If oxytocin is increased in people with psychological disorders, it could be an effective way to treat schizophrenia or autism. Increased oxytocin facilitates trust, decreases anxiety, and positively affects social and emotional behavior.

http://www.suite101.com/content/how-love-hormones-work-a44713#ixzz1HYgKUJfU

Depression

2011-03-20T23:54:00.000-07:00

Depression is a widespread mood disorder that ruins the lives.......... Depression is, indeed, a torment. It sucks out energy, happiness, the desire to socialize, create, love and give. It is a slow, cruel killer that transforms living into a bland and incomprehensible desert. It is known that women suffer from depressive episodes twice as often as do men – another injustice imposed by the natural forces which shape our cyclic hormonal realities.

When a woman is depressed, she may constantly feel:
sad and withdrawn;
anxious and nervous;
isolated and lonely;
irritable;
passive;
fatigued;
overly critical towards herself and others;
discouraged;
hopeless;
lost; or
she may not feel anything in particular at all besides existing bodily in a gloomy, dark place, depleted of any light or hope…
Depressed women weep frequently and may gain weight because they tend to binge on junk food ‘treats’. It is a sad and negative circle. They begin to stay away from friends and the activities they used to enjoy. In cases of severe clinical depression, a woman might even end her precious life, because she is incapable of making her way out of the grinding distress. In these unfortunate circumstances, she feels overwhelmed by life, the reality that has become wholly unbearable.

Ironically, depression is one of the “markers of civilization” – one of the most typical mental disorders in our “advantaged” industrialized world. Statistics also show that people born after the Second World War suffer from depression much more often than those of previous generations.

Love Me Now or Never

2011-03-20T23:06:00.000-07:00

Love Me Now or Never
by Mhariz

" If You're going to love me,
love me now, while I can know
All the secrets and tender feelings
which from real affection flows.
Love me now while I'm living;
Do not wait 'till I am gone
And then chisel them on marble warm
Love words on ice-cold stone
If you have,Dear, sweet thoughts about me
Why not whisper them to me?
Don't you know it would make me
Happy and as glad, as glad as could be?
If you wait 'till I am sleeping,
Never to awaken here again,
There'll be walls between us
And I couldn't hear then.
So, Dear, If you love me any,
If it's but a little bit,
Let me know it now while I'm living;
I can own and treasure it."

About War

2011-03-20T01:09:00.001-07:00

Give me the money that has been spent in war and I will clothe every man, woman, and child in an attire of which kings and queens will be proud. I will build a schoolhouse in every valley over the whole earth. I will crown every hillside with a place of worship consecrated to peace. ~Charles Sumner

War does not determine who is right - only who is left. ~Bertrand Russell

It'll be a great day when education gets all the money it wants and the Air Force has to hold a bake sale to buy bombers. ~Author unknown, quoted in You Said a Mouthful edited by Ronald D. Fuchs

I dream of giving birth to a child who will ask, "Mother, what was war?" ~Eve Merriam

The release of atom power has changed everything except our way of thinking... the solution to this problem lies in the heart of mankind. If only I had known, I should have become a watchmaker. ~Albert Einstein

The direct use of force is such a poor solution to any problem, it is generally employed only by small children and large nations. ~David Friedman

"There are no atheists in foxholes" isn't an argument against atheism, it's an argument against foxholes. ~James Morrow

Sometimes I think it should be a rule of war that you have to see somebody up close and get to know him before you can shoot him. ~M*A*S*H, Colonel Potter

All the arms we need are for hugging. ~Author Unknown

A soldier will fight long and hard for a bit of colored ribbon. ~Napoleon

If we do not end war - war will end us. Everybody says that, millions of people believe it, and nobody does anything. ~H.G. Wells, Things to Come (the "film story"), Part III, adapted from his 1933 novel The Shape of Things to Come, spoken by the character John Cabal (Thanks Bill!)

A great war leaves the country with three armies - an army of cripples, an army of mourners, and an army of thieves. ~German Proverb

The world has achieved brilliance without wisdom, power without conscience. Ours is a world of nuclear giants and ethical infants. We know more about war that we know about peace, more about killing that we know about living. ~Omar Bradley

Every gun that is made, every warship launched, every rocket fired signifies in the final sense, a theft from those who hunger and are not fed, those who are cold and are not clothed. This world in arms is not spending money alone. It is spending the sweat of its laborers, the genius of its scientists, the hopes of its children. This is not a way of life at all in any true sense. Under the clouds of war, it is humanity hanging on a cross of iron. ~Dwight D. Eisenhower, speech, American Society of Newspaper Editors, 16 April 1953

The most persistent sound which reverberates through men's history is the beating of war drums. ~Arthur Koestler, Janus: A Summing Up

What a cruel thing is war: to separate and destroy families and friends, and mar the purest joys and happiness God has granted us in this world; to fill our hearts with hatred instead of love for our neighbors, and to devastate the fair face of this beautiful world. ~Robert E. Lee, letter to his wife, 1864

Everyone's a pacifist between wars. It's like being a vegetarian between meals. ~Colman McCarthy

Nations have recently been led to borrow billions for war; no nation has ever borrowed largely for education. Probably, no nation is rich enough to pay for both war and civilization. We must make our choice; we cannot have both. ~Abraham Flexner

Draft beer, not people. ~Attributed to Bob Dylan

The problem in defense is how far you can go without destroying from within what you are trying to defend from without. ~Dwight D. Eisenhower

War will exist until that distant day when the conscientious objector enjoys the same reputation and prestige that the warrior does today. ~John F. Kennedy

In Flanders fields the poppies grow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place, and in the sky,
The larks, still bravely singing, fly,
Scarce heard amid the guns below.
~John McCrae

What this planet needs is more mistletoe and less missile-talk. ~Author Unknown

Join the Army, see the world, meet interesting people - and kill them. ~Pacifist Badge, 1978

Never think that war, no matter how necessary, nor how justified, is not a crime. ~Ernest Hemingway

War makes thieves and peace hangs them. ~George Herbert

You can no more win a war than you can win an earthquake. ~Jeanette Rankin

You are not going to get peace with millions of armed men. The chariot of peace cannot advance over a road littered with cannon. ~David Lloyd George

Sometime they'll give a war and nobody will come. ~Carl Sandburg

In war, there are no unwounded soldiers. ~José Narosky

We kind o' thought Christ went agin war an' pillage. ~James Russell Lowell

If we let people see that kind of thing, there would never again be any war. ~Pentagon official explaining why the U.S. military censored graphic footage from the Gulf War

I have no doubt that we will be successful in harnessing the sun's energy.... If sunbeams were weapons of war, we would have had solar energy centuries ago. ~Sir George Porter, quoted in The Observer, 26 August 1973

War would end if the dead could return. ~Stanley Baldwin

War! that mad game the world so loves to play. ~Jonathan Swift

It is forbidden to kill; therefore all murderers are punished unless they kill in large numbers and to the sound of trumpets. ~Voltaire, War

We need a new law that owners of SUVs are automatically in the military reserve. Then they can go get their own goddamn oil. ~Jello Biafra, quoted in The Guardian, 3 November 2007

If it's natural to kill, why do men have to go into training to learn how? ~Joan Baez, "What Would You Do If....?"

I couldn't help but say to [Mr. Gorbachev], just think how easy his task and mine might be in these meetings that we held if suddenly there was a threat to this world from another planet. [We'd] find out once and for all that we really are all human beings here on this earth together. ~Ronald Reagan, 1985

[John] Dalton's records, carefully preserved for a century, were destroyed during the World War II bombing of Manchester. It is not only the living who are killed in war. ~Isaac Asimov

The tragedy of war is that it uses man's best to do man's worst. ~Henry Fosdick

All wars are follies, very expensive and very mischievous ones. In my opinion, there never was a good war or a bad peace. When will mankind be convinced and agree to settle their difficulties by arbitration? ~Benjamin Franklin

In war, truth is the first casualty. ~Aeschylus (Thanks, Dan)

Men are at war with each other because each man is at war with himself. ~Francis Meehan

Only the dead have seen the end of war. ~Plato

No country is so wild and difficult but men will make it a theater of war. ~Ambrose Bierce

Man, in his sensitivity, does not give names to animals he intends to eat but goes on giving names to children he intends to send to war. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com

War grows out of the desire of the individual to gain advantage at the expense of his fellow man. ~Napoleon Hill

We have war when at least one of the parties to a conflict wants something more than it wants peace. ~Jeane J. Kirkpatrick

Man is the only animal that deals in that atrocity of atrocities, War. He is the only one that gathers his brethren about him and goes forth in cold blood and calm pulse to exterminate his kind. He is the only animal that for sordid wages will march out... and help to slaughter strangers of his own species who have done him no harm and with whom he has no quarrel.... And in the intervals between campaigns he washes the blood off his hands and works for "the universal brotherhood of man" - with his mouth. ~Mark Twain

Patriots always talk of dying for their country and never of killing for their country. ~Bertrand Russell, attributed

It doesn't require any particular bravery to stand on the floor of the Senate and urge our boys in Vietnam to fight harder, and if this war mushrooms into a major conflict and a hundred thousand young Americans are killed, it won't be U.S. Senators who die. It will be American soldiers who are too young to qualify for the Senate. ~George McGovern

I'm fed up to the ears with old men dreaming up wars for young men to die in. ~George McGovern

When the rich wage war, it's the poor who die. ~Jean-Paul Sartre

The release of atomic energy has not created a new problem. It has merely made more urgent the necessity of solving an existing one. ~Albert Einstein, "Atomic War or Peace," Atlantic Monthly, November 1945

You cannot prevent and prepare for war at the same time. ~Albert Einstein

We kill because we are afraid of our own shadow, afraid that if we used a little common sense we'd have to admit that our glorious principles were wrong. ~Henry Miller, The Wisdom of the Heart, 1941

The refuge of the morally, intellectually, artistically and economically bankrupt is war. ~Martin H. Fischer

They wrote in the old days that it is sweet and fitting to die for one's country. But in modern war there is nothing sweet nor fitting in your dying. You will die like a dog for no good reason. ~Ernest Hemingway

The ability and inclination to use physical strength is no indication of bravery or tenacity to life. The greatest cowards are often the greatest bullies. Nothing is cheaper and more common than physical bravery. ~Clarence Darrow, Resist Not Evil

Where is the indignation about the fact that the United States and Soviet Union have accumulated thirty thousand pounds of destructive force for every human being in the world? ~Norman Cousins

I think war might be God's way of teaching us geography. ~Paul Rodriguez

The era of true peace on earth will not come as long as a tremendous percentage of your taxes goes to educate men in the trades of slaughter. ~Reginald Wright Kauffman

Are bombs the only way of setting fire to the spirit of a people? Is the human will as inert as the past two world-wide wars would indicate? ~Gregory Clark

The way to win an atomic war is to make certain it never starts. ~Omar Bradley

War is only a cowardly escape from the problems of peace. ~Thomas Mann

We have failed to grasp the fact that mankind is becoming a single unit, and that for a unit to fight against itself is suicide. ~Havelock Ellis

Have not I myself known five hundred living soldiers sabred into crows' meat for a piece of glazed cotton, which they call their flag; which had you sold it at any market-cross, would not have brought above three groschen? ~Thomas Carlyle, "Sartor Resartus"

The basic problems facing the world today are not susceptible to a military solution. ~John F. Kennedy

War is the only game in which it doesn't pay to have the home-court advantage. ~Dick Motta

War. The dark time of valour, loss and hope where a man is controlled by his gun; where a gun is controlled by his hatred. Completely uncontrollable. ~Daniel Ha

If it were proved to me that in making war, my ideal had a chance of being realized, I would still say "no" to war. For one does not create a human society on mounds of corpses. ~Louis Lecoin

War is fear cloaked in courage. ~William Westmoreland

War has a deeper and more ineffable relation to hidden grandeurs in man than has yet been deciphered. ~Thomas de Quincey

No country can act wisely simultaneously in every part of the globe at every moment of time. ~Henry Kissinger

Liberty and democracy become unholy when their hands are dyed red with innocent blood. ~Gandhi, Non-violence in Peace and War, 1948

I would like it if men had to partake in the same hormonal cycles to which we're subjected monthly. Maybe that's why men declare war - because they have a need to bleed on a regular basis. ~Brett Butler

We saw the lightning and that was the guns and then we heard the thunder and that was the big guns; and then we heard the rain falling and that was the blood falling; and when we came to get in the crops, it was dead men that we reaped. ~Harriet Tubman

It is easier to lead men to combat, stirring up their passions, than to restrain them and direct them toward the patient labors of peace. ~André Gide, Journals, 13 September 1938

Battles, in these ages, are transacted by mechanism; with the slightest possible development of human individuality or spontaneity; men now even die, and kill one another, in an artificial manner. ~Thomas Carlyle, The French Revolution, vol 1, book VII, chapter 4

The military don't start wars. Politicians start wars. ~William Westmoreland

I have never advocated war except as a means of peace. ~Ulysses S. Grant

We are going to have peace even if we have to fight for it. ~Dwight D. Eisenhower

In the name of peace
They waged the wars
Ain't they got no shame
~Nikki Giovanni

Fighting for peace is like screwing for virginity. ~Author Unknown

What is absurd and monstrous about war is that men who have no personal quarrel should be trained to murder one another in cold blood. ~Aldous Huxley

Man has no right to kill his brother. It is no excuse that he does so in uniform: he only adds the infamy of servitude to the crime of murder. ~Percy Bysshe Shelley, "A Declaration of Rights"

Frankly, I'd like to see the government get out of war altogether and leave the whole field to private individuals. ~Joseph Heller, Catch-22, 1955

To kill a man is not to defend a doctrine, but to kill a man. ~Michael Servetus

A day will come when a cannon will be exhibited in museums, just as instruments of torture are now, and the people will be astonished that such a thing could have been. ~Victor Hugo

Anyone who has ever looked into the glazed eyes of a soldier dying on the battlefield will think hard before starting a war. ~Otto Von Bismark

The draft is white people sending black people to fight yellow people to protect the country they stole from red people. ~Gerome Gragni and James Rado, 1967

War hath no fury like a noncombatant. ~Charles Edward Montague, Disenchantment

What a country calls its vital... interests are not things that help its people live, but things that help it make war. Petroleum is a more likely cause of international conflict than wheat. ~Simone Weil, Ecrits historiques et politiques, 1960

War is never a solution; it is an aggravation. ~Benjamin Disraeli

The stench of the trail of Ego in our History. It is ego - ego, the fountain cry, origin, sole source of war. ~George Meredith, Beauchamp's Career

Dress it as we may, feather it, daub it with gold, huzza it, and sing swaggering songs about it, what is war, nine times out of ten, but murder in uniform? ~Douglas Jerrold

If you wish to be brothers, drop your weapons. ~Pope John Paul II

Law never made men a whit more just; and by means of their respect for it, even the well-disposed are daily made the agents of injustice. A common and natural result of an undue respect for law is that you may see a file of soldiers, colonel, captain, corporal, privates, powder-monkeys, and all marching in admirable order over hill and dale to the wars, against their wills, ay, against their common sense and consciences, which makes it very steep marching indeed, and produces a palpitation of the heart. They have no doubt that it is a damnable business in which they are concerned; they are all peaceably inclined. Now, what are they? Men at all? or small movable forts and magazines, at the service of some unscrupulous man in power? The mass of men serve the State thus, not as men mainly, but as machines, with their bodies.... In most cases there is no free exercise whatever of the judgment or of the moral sense; but they put themselves on a level with wood and earth and stones; and wooden men can perhaps be manufactured that will serve the purpose as well. ~Henry David Thoreau, On the Duty of Civil Disobedience

Older men declare war. But it is the youth that must fight and die. ~Herbert Hoover

A day of battle is a day of harvest for the devil. ~William Hooke

There is nothing that war has ever achieved that we could not better achieve without it. ~Havelock Ellis

All wars are civil wars, because all men are brothers. ~François Fénelon

War should belong to the tragic past, to history: it should find no place on humanity's agenda for the future. ~Pope John Paul II (Karol Wojtyla)

Men were made for war. Without it they wandered greyly about, getting under the feet of the women, who were trying to organize the really important things of life. ~Alice Thomas Ellis

Will... the threat of common extermination continue?... Must children receive the arms race from us as a necessary inheritance? ~Pope John Paul II, speech at the UN, 1979

War is nothing less than a temporary repeal of the principles of virtue. It is a system out of which almost all the virtues are excluded, and in which nearly all the vices are included. ~Robert Hall

Traditional nationalism cannot survive the fissioning of the atom. One world or none. ~Stuart Chase

Wars usually have the effect of speeding up the process of history. ~Pieter Geyl, Debates With Historians

Why do we kill people who are killing people to show that killing people is wrong? ~Holly Near

The pioneers of a warless world are the [youth] who refuse military service. ~Albert Einstein

O Lord our God, help us tear their soldiers to bloody shreds with our shells; help us to cover their smiling fields with the pale forms of their patriot dead; help us to drown the thunder of the guns with the shrieks of their wounded, writhing in pain; help us to lay waste their humble homes with a hurricane of fire; help us to wring the hearts of their unoffending widows with unavailing grief; help us to turn them out roofless with their little children to wander unfriended the wastes of their desolated land in rags and hunger and thirst, sports of the sun flames of summer and the icy winds of winter, broken in spirit, worn with travail, imploring Thee for the refuge of the grave and denied it. ~Mark Twain, "The War Prayer"

The death of one man is a tragedy. The death of millions is a statistic. ~Joe Stalin, comment to Churchill at Potsdam, 1945

Men like war: they do not hold much sway over birth, so they make up for it with death. Unlike women, men menstruate by shedding other people's blood. ~Lucy Ellman

War is an ugly thing, but not the ugliest of things. The decayed and degraded state of moral and patriotic feeling which thinks that nothing is worth war is much worse. The person who has nothing for which he is willing to fight, nothing which is more important than his own personal safety, is a miserable creature and has no chance of being free unless made and kept so by the exertions of better men than himself. ~John Stewart Mill

The aim of military training is not just to prepare men for battle, but to make them long for it. ~Louis Simpson

The object of war is not to die for your country, but to make the other bastard die for his. ~George Patton

The expendability factor has increased by being transferred from the specialised, scarce and expensively trained military personnel to the amorphous civilian population. American strategists have calculated the proportion of civilians killed in this century's major wars. In the First World War 5 per cent of those killed were civilians, in the Second World War 48 per cent, while in a Third World War 90-95 per cent would be civilians. ~Colin Ward, Anarchy in Action

You can't say civilization don't advance, however, for in every war they kill you in a new way. ~Will Rogers, New York Times, 23 December 1929

Organized slaughter, we realize, does not settle a dispute; it merely silences an argument. ~James Frederick Green

I recoil with horror at the ferociousness of man. Will nations never devise a more rational umpire of differences than force? Are there no means of coercing injustice more gratifying to our nature than a waste of the blood of thousands and of the labor of millions of our fellow creatures? ~Thomas Jefferson

War should be made a crime, and those who instigate it should be punished as criminals. ~Charles Evans Hughes

War is a game which were their subjects wise, kings would not play at. ~William Cowper

Borders are scratched across the hearts of men
By strangers with a calm, judicial pen,
And when the borders bleed we watch with dread
The lines of ink across the map turn red.
~Marya Mannes, Subverse: Rhymes for Our Times, 1959

War is not an adventure. It is a disease. It is like typhus. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupery

They should pick a dry year to fight the war. Better yet, civilize the moronic races and have no wars at all. ~Clair J. Clark, letter to wife, March 1944

I don't know whether war is an interlude during peace, or peace an interlude during war. ~Georges Clemenceau

As long as mankind shall continue to bestow more liberal applause on their destroyers than on their benefactors, the thirst of military glory will ever be the vice of exalted characters. ~Edward Gibbon

There's a graveyard in northern France where all the dead boys from D-Day are buried. The white crosses reach from one horizon to the other. I remember looking it over and thinking it was a forest of graves. But the rows were like this, dizzying, diagonal, perfectly straight, so after all it wasn't a forest but an orchard of graves. Nothing to do with nature, unless you count human nature. ~Barbara Kingsolver, Animal Dreams

War! When I but think of this word, I feel bewildered, as though they were speaking to me of sorcery, of the Inquisition, of a distant, finished, abominable, monstrous, unnatural thing. When they speak to us of cannibals, we smile proudly, as we proclaim our superiority to these savages. Who are the real savages? Those who struggle in order to eat those whom they vanquish, or those who struggle merely to kill? ~Guy de Maupassant, Sur l'Eau

The bomb that fell on Hiroshima fell on America too. It fell on no city, no munition plants, no docks. It erased no church, vaporized no public buildings, reduced no man to his atomic elements. But it fell, it fell. ~Hermann Hagedorn, "The Bomb That Fell on America"

I hate war for its consequences, for the lies it lives on and propagates, for the undying hatreds it arouses, for the dictatorships it puts in the place of democracies, and for the starvation that stalks after it. I hate war, and never again will I sanction or support another. ~Harry Emerson Fosdick

It seems like such a terrible shame that innocent civilians have to get hurt in wars, otherwise combat would be such a wonderfully healthy way to rid the human race of unneeded trash. ~Fred Woodworth

In an incredible perversion of justice, former soldiers who sprayed festeringly poisonous chemicals on Vietnam, and now find today that they themselves have been damaged by them, appeal to the people for sympathy and charity. The effects of the defoliant "Agent Orange" are discussed at length, but not one single newspaper article or hearing that we are aware of has even mentioned the effects of the people who still live in those regions of Vietnam. It's as outlandish as if Nazis who gassed Jews were now to come forward and whine that the poisons they utilized had finally made them sick. The staggering monstrousness goes unlaughed at and even unnoticed, as in a Kafka novel. ~Fred Woodworth, The Match, No. 79

A visitor from Mars could easily pick out the civilized nations. They have the best implements of war. ~Herbert V. Prochnow

Studies by Medical Corps psychiatrists of combat fatigue cases... found that fear of killing, rather than fear of being killed, was the most common cause of battle failure, and that fear of failure ran a strong second. ~S.L.A. Marshall

You're an old-timer if you can remember when setting the world on fire was a figure of speech. ~Franklin P. Jones, referring to the atomic bomb

Stop HATE

2011-03-20T01:05:00.001-07:00

Who Packs Your Parachute?

2011-03-06T22:55:00.001-08:00

Who Packs Your Parachute?

Charles Plumb was a U.S. Navy jet pilot in Vietnam. After 75 combat missions, his plane was destroyed by a surface-to-air missile. Plumb ejected and parachuted into enemy hands. He was captured and spent 6 years in a communist Vietnamese prison. He survived the ordeal and now lectures on lessons learned from that experience.

One day, when Plumb and his wife were sitting in a restaurant, a man at another table came up
and said, You're Plumb! You flew jet fighters in Vietnam from the aircraft carrier Kitty Hawk. You were shot down!

How in the world did you know that? asked Plumb. I packed your parachute, the man replied.
Plumb gasped in surprise and gratitude. The man pumped his hand and said, I guess it worked!
Plumb assured him, It sure did. If your chute hadn't worked, I wouldn't be here today.

Plumb couldn't sleep that night, thinking about that man. Plumb says, I kept wondering what he might have looked like in a Navy uniform: a white hat, a bib in the back, and bell-bottom trousers. I wonder how many times I might have seen him and not even said 'Good morning, how are you?' or anything because, you see, I was a fighter pilot and he was just a sailor. Plumb thought of the many hours the sailor had spent on a long wooden table in the bowels of the ship, carefully weaving the shrouds and folding the silks of each chute, holding in his hands each time the fate of someone he didn't know.

Now, Plumb asks his audience, Who's packing your parachute? Everyone has someone who provides what they need to make it through the day. Plumb also points out that he needed many kinds of parachutes when his plane was shot down over enemy territory - he needed his physical parachute, his mental parachute, his emotional parachute, and his spiritual parachute. He called on all these supports before reaching safety.

Sometimes in the daily challenges that life gives us, we miss what is really important. We may fail to say hello, please, or thank you, congratulate someone on something wonderful that has happened to them, give a compliment, or just do something nice for no reason.

http://www.yourlifehappiness.com/friends_parachute.html

WHY EXERCISE

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Daily quote

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Success is not the key to happiness.
Happiness is the key to success.
If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.

Albert Schweitzer

I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality.
This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.

Martin Luther King, jr.

10 Steps to Obtaining Spiritual Power

2011-02-13T22:54:00.000-08:00

10 Steps to Obtaining Spiritual Power

I. Divine power comes to those who are willing, first of all.
II. Willingness to walk in divine power must accompany a surrender.
III. Surrender leads to an innate desire for truth.
IV. A search for truth leads to wisdom.
V. Wisdom is the beginning of understanding.
VI. Understanding opens one up to the process of dying to self
VII. Dying to self allows for divine power to freely flow through
VIII. An open vessel (empty of self) is ready to receive revelation.
IX. It is by revelation that one can partake in divine power, move in divine

power and impart with divine power X. Divine power is given for the benefit of others and not for selfish motives. How do I walk in divine power? Ask yourself this question,“Am I willing to surrender?” If the answer is yes, then a spiritual rebirth is the next process. You are born in the natural realm with a biological father and mother., but now you must be born of the Spirit. Man is spirit and the body is its house, or dwelling place, and as you determine to walk into this rebirth, your spirit man becomes alive to things of the spirit realm. The body however, is temporal. Once rebirth has occurred, the process of death begins. It may seem ironic, but death is the place of true spiritual power.

The death process must include a burial. The burial will then be followed with a resurrection. It’s like a seed which falls into the ground. It dies, but when it dies, it produces much fruit. The natural man must die first and then the spirit man arises in resurrection power. The things of this world hold no real obstacles for the man of the spirit.

Love's Moments

2011-02-11T02:22:00.000-08:00

Love's Moments

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!

When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.

Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

-- Anonymous

Love's Philosophy

2011-02-11T02:21:00.001-08:00

Love's Philosophy
The fountains mingle with the river
And the rivers with the ocean,
The winds of Heaven mix forever
With a sweet emotion;
Nothing in the world is single;
All things by a law divine
In one spirit meet and mingle.
Why not I with thine? -

See the mountains kiss high Heaven
And the waves clasp one another;
No sister-flower would be forgiven
If it disdained its brother;
And the sunlight clasps the earth
And the moonbeams kiss the sea:
What is all this sweet work worth
If thou kiss not me?

Percy Bysshe Shelley

My heart belongs to you

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9 things never to say to a woman

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9 things never to say to a woman
by Rahul
Tue Oct 20, 2009

Women, it's difficult to understand them.

One moment they are so loving and coy that they make you feel like a giant grizzly, who should protect them from this big, bad world; and the next they are bored and spat venom at whatever you may say. But try to imagine a woman who would always do what you asked her to do, said the right things, loved you for whatever you are worth – wouldn't it be a tad boring?

Before you say 'no', I would like to remind you that you fell for the woman because of her fire, her nastiness, her love and of course, the passion she always displays. But to stay on her right side, you have to know what not to say to her ever. And she will love you forever.

1. May I kiss you?
You are a man who she is out on date with. By asking such a question you are putting yourself in jeopardy. A man should never 'ask' for a kiss as it goes against everything a woman is looking for in a man. You may as well just tell her right there that you are a boy. Eight times of out nine, she is likely to say 'no' – so why even say it in the first place? If you so want to kiss her, grab her and plant a passionate one on her lips and watch her expression – she is going to love you forever!

2. May I take you out on a date?
Women like men to lead, to be in control. When you say something like this, like the above number 1, you lead her to believe you want to follow her. She is not looking for a wimp – but a man to be in control. Ask her out, but in a confident manner, something like, “Hey let's meet up for some drinks tonight?” Be specific, not wishy-washy, tell her the venue and time. And also tell her you'd like her to be punctual. C'mon, there is no harm in coming across as no-nonsense. It might win you brownie points. At least she will open her eyes and look at you.

3. I have it all
Anything about your car, job or house that sounds like you are trying to impress her, should not be talked about. Do you know what kind of guys brag about their cars, jobs and houses to women? Well, the truth is a lot of different kinds of guys, but women put them all in one category: guys who have nothing else to offer. Ask any attractive woman about this and she'll agree. Sure, you may attract some women, but even those women will be far more impressed by your material possessions if you don't mention them in conversation

4. What do you want to do?
There is a saying that a woman likes a 'man with a plan' and it is absolutely true. When you call a woman to hang out, make sure you have a game plan. Don't put the burden on her or she won't see you as the type of guy who can show her a good time.

5. How do you feel about me?
The fact that she is willing to go out with you, is indication enough. Don't ask obvious questions. You not only sound under-confident but also come across as someone who needs constant reassurance. And this can be very tedious. So don't ask, just assume she likes you, and go from there. Why shouldn't she like you?

6. I called, but you didn't call me back
If she doesn't bring up the matter, don't say anything about the call you made which she didn't return or the message she didn't reply to. Think it never happened and proceed forward. By asking her this there are two things 1. Showing that you care that she didn't return it. And it's too early for you to care buddy; 2. Giving her a guilt trip, which women see as insecurity.

7. How many men have you dated before me?
How do you care how many men she has dated before you? As long as she is nice with you and you two are having fun, it is okay. Remember to give a relationship enough time before asking personal or intimate questions. By asking such questions, you may be sealing your own fate. What if she never calls you after this date? You wouldn't want that to happen. It is okay if she brings it up. But trust me, you don't want to be the one to start this conversation. You can only lose.

8. Let's go bowling tomorrow
This is date number one. You don't know about date number two. So don't even hint about it by saying 'Let's eat Thai food next time.' Stop, stop, stop, stop! While this sounds good in theory, you must remember that women not only want but need a guy who is somewhat of a “challenge.” You may want to do some fun activities together, but don't let her know that she has “won you over” too quickly or you'll come off just like every other guy she's gone out with that is ready to “put a ring on it” after date No. 1.

9. I know what we should do
While on the phone, avoid saying tomorrow or next time we'll go there' as you are killing any spontaneity by being predictable. Second, you are also killing any chances of her calling you, as she has to now wait for your call or risk looking desperate. Not good.

http://www.fropki.com/things-never-say-woman-vt37145.html

There are 7 kinds of sex

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The 1st kind of sex is called: Smurf Sex.
This kind of sex happens when you first meet someone and you both have sex until you are blue in the face.

The 2nd kind of sex is called: Kitchen Sex.
This is when you have been with your partner for a short time and you are so needy you will have sex anywhere, even in the kitchen.

The 3rd kind of sex is called: Bedroom Sex.
This is when you have been with your partner for a long time. Your sex has gotten routine and you usually have sex only in your bedroom.

The 4th kind of sex is called: Hallway Sex
This is when you have been with your partner for too long. When you pass each other in the hallway you both say "screw you."

The 5th kind of sex is called: Religious Sex.
Which means you get Nun in the morning, Nun in the afternoon and Nun at night.(Very Popular)

The 6th kind is called Courtroom Sex.
This is when you cannot stand your wife any more. She takes you to court and screws you in front of everyone.

And; Last, but not least,
The 7th kind of sex is called: Social Security Sex. You get a little each month. But not enough to enjoy your self.

What should I do to marry a rich guy?

2011-01-24T20:44:00.001-08:00

What should I do to marry a rich guy?

A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:

I’m going to be honest of what I’m going to say here. I’m 25 this year. I’m very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I’m greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York . My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you? Among those I’ve dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit. If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden (? ) , $250k annual income is not enough.

I’m here humbly to ask a few questions:
1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names And addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking? I¹ve met a few girls who don’t have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)

- Ms. Pretty

Here’s a reply from a Wall Street Financial guy:

Dear Ms. Pretty,

I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyze your situation as a professional investor. My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I’m not wasting time here.

From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain. Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty” and “money”: Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square. However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year. Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worried 10 years later.

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position”. If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased”. Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advise that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income. This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Hope this reply helps.
signed, J.P. Morgan

Happy Family Day

2011-01-24T20:43:00.000-08:00

Faces of the world

2011-01-18T20:37:00.000-08:00

Vain Quotes

2011-01-15T22:29:00.000-08:00

"Nothing makes one so vain as being told one is a sinner. Conscience makes egotists of us all.” Oscar Wilde

How vain it is to sit down to write when you have not stood up to live.”
Henry David Thoreau

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself”
Max Ehrman

“It is in vain to expect our prayers to be heard, if we do not strive as well as pray.” Aesop

Unable to love - Within Despair

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Unable to love - Within Despair

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wnwsq2jXTXE

fact

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"Whatever you give a woman, she's going to multiply. If you
give her sperm, she'll give you a baby. If you give her a
house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries,
she'll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she'll
give you her heart.

"She multiplies and enlarges all that is given to her.

"So, if you give her any crap, you will receive a ton of
shit."

Love and appreciate all the women in your life.

Are We Really Wealthy?

2011-01-10T20:48:00.000-08:00

Are We Really Wealthy?

Have you heard about rich people who are not happy at times?
Do you know about those people who have a very good job, they are earning well but complaining that they are not happy?

Who is a wealthy person? Do you think that a person is wealthy when he or she has lots and lots of money?

I think there is more to wealth than money only.

We all are wealthy in one way or the other. Really Believe me!

In my view, a wealthy person is always happy. Why?

Because there are seven types of wealth:

1. Inner wealth:

Having a positive mental attitude is a type of wealth. Positive people with positive outlook of the world can be happy – Always.

Try this: Have a positive mental attitude and try to be sad at the same time. I don’t think its possible. With positive attitude, life appears to be positive. Inner wealth really helps.

2. Physical wealth:

Health is wealth! A person who is not healthy cannot enjoy life. If you want to learn importance of wealth, ask some one who is not feeling well.

3. Family wealth:

Do you have loving parents or a caring brother or sister or friends who can come to your help at any time you want? Family and friends are another form of wealth.

4. Career wealth:

When we reach at the top of our career, we feel a sense of fulfillment. This is another type of wealth.

5. Economic wealth:

Money is not the only important thing in life but it is one of the important things and hence, it is needed. Some one said: The more I have, the more I can give. So, earn more to give more.

6. Adventure wealth:

We feel happy when we visit new place or meet new exciting people. We feel happy when we are able to take a challenge and deliver more than expectation. Adventure is another form of wealth

7. Impact wealth:

What is our mission in life?

What is the impact we can make on our environment? Can we do some thing to improve life of people who need our support or help? Think about it. People who have impact around their environment show that they have impact wealth.

So, next time, think that you are wealthy when you have inner wealth. When you have a caring family or caring friends or when you are healthy or when you progress in your career you are wealthy! Think and thank!

RESPONSIBILITY

2011-01-10T19:37:00.000-08:00

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview,
made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".

The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'

The Director asked, " please tell me your feelings."

The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, " This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are
hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he
wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put
himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he
starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn
piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.

Power When You Pray

2011-01-04T23:33:00.000-08:00

Power When You Pray
A Message From Billy Graham

A simple prayer can be the beginning of a new life for you
—life that is both abundant and eternal.

by Billy Graham

We are not the masters of our fate, either individually or as a nation. How can we boast that we control our own destiny when a virus can lay low tens of thousands? How can our country insist that we, with our military might, our tremendous wealth and our foreign alliances, are the masters of our own fate when history testifies that God shaped this nation’s course?

We are caught up in a stream of history that is beyond our ability to control. There is only one power available to change the course of history, and that is the power of prayer—the prayer of God-fearing, Christ-believing men and women.

But today we have come to a place where many people regard prayer as simply a formality. We have no sense of coming to grips with God, except for the continuation of a venerated tradition. Yet how can we go on unless there is a renewed emphasis on prayer?

Thousands of people pray only in times of great stress, danger or uncertainty. Christ instructed His followers always to pray. So fervent and so direct were the prayers of Jesus that once when He had finished praying, His followers turned to Him and said, “Lord, teach us to pray” (Luke 11:1).

From one end of the Bible to the other is the record of those whose prayers have been answered—those who turned the tide of history by prayer; those who fervently prayed, and God answered. Abraham prayed, and so long as he prayed, God did not destroy the city of Sodom where Abraham’s nephew Lot lived.

Hezekiah prayed when his city was threatened by the invading armies of the Assyrians under the leadership of Sennacherib. The entire army of Sennacherib was destroyed and the nation was spared for another generation—because the king had prayed.

Elijah prayed, and God sent fire from Heaven to consume the offering on the altar he had built in the presence of God’s enemies. Elisha prayed, and the son of the Shunammite woman was raised from the dead. Jesus prayed at the door of the tomb of Lazarus, and the one who had been dead for four days came forth. The thief on the cross prayed, and Jesus assured him that he would be with Him in Paradise. Paul prayed, and churches were born in Asia Minor and in Europe. Peter prayed, and Dorcas was raised to life to have added years of service for Jesus Christ.

John Wesley prayed, and revival came to England. Jonathan Edwards prayed, and revival came to Northampton, Mass., where thousands of people joined the churches. History has been changed time after time because of prayer, and it could be changed again if people went to their knees in believing prayer.

What a glorious thing it would be if millions of us would avail ourselves of the privilege of prayer! Jesus Christ died to make this communion and communication with the Father possible. He told us of the joy in Heaven when one sinner turns from sin to God and breathes the simple prayer: “God, be merciful to me, a sinner.”

When the disciples came to Jesus and said, “Lord, teach us to pray,” the Savior answered by giving them His model petition, “The Lord’s Prayer.”

However, that was only part of His sacred instruction. In scores of passages Jesus Christ offered further guidance, and because He practiced what He preached, His whole life was a series of lessons on prevailing prayer. Jesus had only three years of public ministry, yet He was never too hurried to spend hours in prayer.

How quickly and carelessly, by contrast, we pray. Snatches of memorized verses hastily spoken in the morning, then we say goodbye to God for the rest of the day until we rush through a few closing petitions at night. This is not the prayer program that Jesus outlined. Jesus pleaded long and repeatedly. It is recorded that He spent entire nights in fervent appeal. But how little perseverance and persistence and pleading we show!

The Scripture says, “Pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17). This should be the motto of every follower of Jesus Christ. Never stop praying, no matter how dark and hopeless your case may seem. A woman once wrote me that she had been pleading for 10 years for the conversion of her husband but that he was more hardened than ever. I advised her to continue to plead. Then some time later I heard from her again. She said that her husband was gloriously and miraculously converted in the eleventh year of her praying. Suppose she had stopped praying after only 10 years!

Our Lord frequently prayed alone, separating Himself from every earthly distraction. I would urge you to select a room or corner in your home where you can regularly meet alone with God. That quiet, secluded, soul-to-God praying in which you come to the mercy seat can be your greatest blessing.

As we observe the prayer life of Jesus, we notice the earnestness with which He prayed. The New Testament records that in Gethsemane He cried out with a loud voice, that in the intensity of His supplication He fell headlong on the damp ground of the garden, that He pleaded until His sweat became “like great drops of blood” (Luke 22: 44).

Too often we use petty petitions, oratorical exercises, the words of others, rather than the cries of our inmost being. Too often, when we go to prayer, our thoughts roam. We insult God by speaking to Him with our lips while our hearts are far from Him. Suppose we were talking to a person of prominence, would we let our thoughts wander for one moment? No, we would be intensely interested in everything that was said. How dare we then treat the King of kings with less respect?

Jesus teaches us for whom we are to intercede. How startling His instructions and His example! He tells us to “pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you” (Matthew 5:44). We are to plead for our enemies, asking God to lead them to Christ and for His sake to forgive them.

In the first words that Jesus uttered from the cross after the heavy nails had been hammered through His hands and feet, He interceded for His crucifiers, saying, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do” (Luke 23:34). How many of us have ever spent time praying for our enemies?

We are also told in Scripture to pray for the conversion of sinners. I once listened to a discussion of religious leaders on how to communicate the Gospel. Not once did I hear them mention prayer. And yet I know of scores of churches that win many converts each year by prayer alone. If there is a person of our acquaintance who needs Christ in his or her life, then we need to start praying for them. We will be amazed at how God will begin to work.
One more lesson that Jesus teaches is the victorious assurance that God answers every true petition. Skeptics may question it, deny it or ridicule it. Yet here is Christ’s own promise: “And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive” (Matthew 21:22). We need to trust that promise. Our Father possesses everything, and He “shall supply all [our] need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:19).
God can defeat each enemy of your soul and defend you from every danger. Nothing is impossible for Him. No task is too arduous, no problem is too difficult, no burden is too heavy for His love. The future with its fears and uncertainties is fully revealed to Him. Turn to Him, and say with Job: “He knows the way that I take; when He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold” (Job 23:10).

Do not put your will above God’s will. Do not insist on your way. Do not dictate to God. Rather, learn the difficult lesson of praying as the sinless Son of God Himself prayed: “Not My will, but Yours, be done” (Luke 22:42).

Many of you have never come to know Jesus Christ so that you can pray in His name. The Scripture says that the only mediator between God and man is Jesus Christ. You must know Him, and you must pray in His name. Your prayers must be directed according to the will of God.

If you do not know how to pray, start now by saying, “God, be merciful to me, a sinner.” Ask God to forgive all your sin, transform your life and make you a new person. He can do it today in answer to the simplest prayer.

I hate my Mouse

2011-01-03T00:18:00.000-08:00

HOW TO START A FIGHT

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HOW TO START A FIGHT

One year, I decided to buy my mother-in-law a cemetery plot as a
Christmas gift...
The next year, I didn't buy her a gift.
When she asked me why, I replied, "Well, you still haven't used the
gift I bought you last year!"
And that's how the fight started.....
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My wife and I were watching Who Wants To Be A Millionaire while we were in bed.
I turned to her and said, 'Do you want to have Sex?'
'No,' she answered. I then said,
'Is that your final answer?'
She didn't even look at me this time, simply saying, 'Yes..'
So I said, "Then I'd like to phone a friend."
And that's when the fight started...
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I took my wife to a restaurant.
The waiter, for some reason, took my order first.
"I'll have the rump steak, rare, please."
He said, "Aren't you worried about the mad cow?"
"Nah, she can order for herself."
And that's when the fight started.....
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My wife and I were sitting at a table at her high school reunion, and
she kept staring at a drunken man swigging his drink as he sat alone
at a nearby table.
I asked her, "Do you know him?"
"Yes", she sighed,
"He's my old boyfriend.... I understand he took to drinking right
after we split up those many years ago, and I hear he hasn't been
sober since."
"My God!" I said, "Who would think a person could go on celebrating that long?"
And then the fight started...
_______________________________

When our lawn mower broke and wouldn't run, my wife kept hinting to me
that I should get it fixed. But, somehow I always had something else
to take care of first, the shed, the boat, making beer.. Always
something more important to me. Finally she thought of a clever way to
make her point.
When I arrived home one day, I found her seated in the tall grass,
busily snipping away with a tiny pair of sewing scissors. I watched
silently for a short time and then went into the house.. I was gone
only a minute, and when I came out again I handed her a toothbrush. I
said, "When you finish cutting the grass, you might as well sweep the
driveway."
The doctors say I will walk again, but I will always have a limp.
________________________________

My wife sat down next to me as I was flipping channels.
She asked, "What's on TV?"
I said, "Dust."
And then the fight started...
________________________________

Saturday morning I got up early, quietly dressed, made my lunch, and
slipped quietly into the garage. I hooked the boat up to the van and
proceeded to back out into a torrential downpour. The wind was blowing
50 mph, so I pulled back into the garage, turned on the radio, and
discovered that the weather would be bad all day. I went back into the
house, quietly undressed, and slipped back into bed.. I cuddled up to
my wife's back, now with a different anticipation, and whispered, "The
weather out there is terrible."
My loving wife of 5 years replied, "And, can you believe my stupid
husband is out fishing in that?"
And that's how the fight started...
________________________________

My wife was hinting about what she wanted for our upcoming anniversary.
She said, "I want something shiny that goes from 0 to 150 in about 3
seconds."
I bought her a bathroom scale.
And then the fight started......
________________________________

After retiring, I went to the Social Security office to apply for
Social Security. The woman behind the counter asked me for my driver's
License to verify my age. I looked in my pockets and realized I had
left my wallet at home. I told the woman that I was very sorry, but I
would have to go home and come back later.
The woman said, 'Unbutton your shirt'.
So I opened my shirt revealing my curly silver hair.
She said, 'That silver hair on your chest is proof enough for me' and
she processed my Social Security application..
When I got home, I excitedly told my wife about my experience at the
Social Security office...
She said, 'You should have dropped your pants. You might have gotten
disability, too.'
And then the fight started...
________________________________
My wife was standing nude, looking in the bedroom mirror.
She was not happy with what she saw and said to me,
"I feel horrible; I look old, fat and ugly.
I really need you to pay me a compliment.'
I replied, "Your eyesight's damn near perfect."
And then the fight started........

The real top 10 libido killers

2010-12-20T21:04:00.000-08:00

The real top 10 libido killers

Written By Dan Juan, Mo 16 Aug, 2010 10:27AM BST

So because I lack originality and imagination I have decided that I will write something about libido as well. Here are my top 10 libido killers for men.

Smells
Obviously bad breath, smelly armpits, insalubrious bits and passing wind are not erotic. But nice smells can sometimes backfire too. A strong whiff of the same perfume your ex used to wear can prompt unhelpful feelings of nostalgia, rage or confusion.

Boredom
If you’re bored with a girl sexually, then obviously that will affect your desire. But it’s equally bad when you’re pulling out all your best moves and it’s her who looks like she’d rather be watching ‘Celebrity Masterchef’. Obviously, it’s never happened to me. I’m just saying, you know, it would be bad.

Chat
When done right, dirty talk is great. Even when done badly, it can be alright. And from my experience, lots of girls are fans of it. But you can have too much of it. And if someone simply doesn’t shut up, it can become a bit distracting for some men.

Questions
Am I doing that wrong? Shall we turn the light off? Should I take this off or leave it on? Why do you like me? Is that normal? Actually do you think it was better with the light on? Too hairy? Being faced with a series of dilemmas is not conducive to spontaneous, passionate love-making.

Hair
I’m not going to get into the shaving debate here. Take the rough with the smooth, I say. But hair in unexpected places is odd. I was once 'with' a lady who had lots of hair on her back. That was disconcerting. Maybe it wasn’t her fault - maybe it was hormonal, or she just didn’t know it was there. Anyway, I haven’t seen her since.

Nerves
I can’t believe they missed this one out in their 512-times-liked libido article. The only time I’ve had genuine trouble in this department is with girls I’ve never slept with before - the first time is when the pressure is at its greatest. No matter how good you think you are, you have to prove it all over again. It’s like turning up for a job interview without any references.

Idiots
I’m not proud to say I’ve slept with various girls I consider to have a lower intellectual capacity than myself. And let’s face it, I’m no Steven Hawking. Normally, it’s fine. But there are occasions when it doesn’t make you feel great about yourself, like when that girl told me her favourite author was Jordan.

Boffins
There’s only one thing more off-putting than sex with someone mildly cretinous – and that’s sex with someone smarter than you. With stupid people, at least you don’t really care what they think. But intelligence is intimidating. You feel more vulnerable to analysis of your technique. I suppose it’s a good job most clever women are clever enough not to sleep with me.

False advertising
Whether it’s a push-up bra, a designer girdle or a plastic pair of Double-Ds, all girls do this in some way. But just bear in mind that if you make something look better than it really is, there will be disappointment once it all unravels into a heap of clothes on the floor.

Booze
Of course I have to mention this one. Eights pints aren’t generally conducive to handsome boners because alcohol is a numbing agent. Drunken sex can often be done though. And to be frank, men often use so-called brewers’ droop as an excuse when the real reason is really one of the others on this list.

Soul Meditation

2010-12-18T20:38:00.000-08:00

Soul Meditation
Soul meditation is the use of careful consideration to see through to the heart of a person. As part of the process of soul meditation, the practitioner asks to be shown the core of their character, the spark of consciousness that makes up the essential self. This spark is generally found near the chakra which controls free and Divine will, a nexus of power within the body.

Those practicing soul meditation are directed to imagine this spark if it cannot easily be seen. Deliberation on the soul, focusing on it with feelings of love, gratitude, and joy, is thought to make the spark of consciousness become brighter and stronger. The light of the soul will spread through the meditator, filling every part of the body. Strong emotional feelings of release are associated with this kind of rumination. It is not uncommon to feel bliss and gratitude during the process of soul meditation, or to be moved to tears.

Soul meditation is common in many cultures and religious practices. It draws from the meditative practices of Eastern religions, such as Hinduism and Buddhism, but can also be found in Kabbalistic practice. Soul meditation is considered helpful for those suffering from feelings of detachment. This detachment is said to occur when the soul leaves the body because the body has been polluted by stress and poor karma. A form of soul meditation called soul retrieval is performed to remedy this problem. The more often a person suffering from feelings of detachment from their inner essence performs soul meditation, the more awareness is said to be granted of their own soul. This awareness is considered important and beneficial, because the soul is believed to be the guiding principle in life.

Soul meditation can be used to invoke feelings of peace and oneness with the universe and the Divine spirit. Soul meditation is the process of bringing yourself together in unity with your soul, and through it, with the Divine force that fills the universe. Those who practice soul meditation regularly may report feelings of greater serenity and peace, even when they are not in the process of meditation.

By Hilary Reese

Pin Flowers

2010-12-18T20:26:00.000-08:00

Shake Hands Harder To Live Longer

2010-12-18T20:13:00.000-08:00

Shake Hands Harder To Live Longer
By doctor2008

A recent study in the British Medical Journal was highlighted in most newspapers in a somewhat oblique manner, an example being – “Strength of your handshake may indicate how long you will live” (UK Independent). This is not to mean that we all should make a conscious attempt to try to attain a vice-like grip on everyone we meet! Far from it..

To put the findings in a proper perspective, this study originated from a reliable source, a unit of the Medical Research Council of the UK, involving 50,000 people who were followed up to 43 years. It measured four indices of physical activity:

How the Heart Feels

2010-12-12T23:44:00.000-08:00

How the Heart Feels

By Klea K.

The heart feels.

The heart is all emotions.

The heart makes you feel.

The heart feels.

The heart takes over all body parts.

When you kiss you kiss with the heart.

The heart keeps all emotions.

The heart feels.

The heart is the shape of love.

If you love, you love with the heart.

The heart keeps all emotions.

The heart feels.

The heart is your life.

Your heart is the kindest body part.

Because it is the most important body part.

Which means it saves your life.

That's how the heart feels.

10 Steps to Achieve Goals

2010-12-12T23:42:00.001-08:00

10 Steps to Achieve Goals
1) Be specific about what you want to achieve
Most people don't know what they want to with their life, and even after thinking hard, they often don't come with something they really want to do. This is one of the main reasons that in spite of so many books on success, most people live an average life, not achieving some major success.

2) Draw up a plan of action
Devote as much time as you need to find a goal or goals, even minor goals are okay. Not everyone really desires great success and is willing to completely change his/her life. Not everyone desires to be a millionaire, or possesses the talent to make money.

After finding a goal that you really desire to achieve, draw up a plan or even several plans, and be as practical as possible.

3) Make a list of steps
List the steps you need to take, such as signing up for a course, studying, reading, developing the required skills, looking for a job, etc, and other steps you need to implement that will take you closer to achieving your goal.

4) Act, do not be passive
Take action and follow the steps on your list. Don't just wait for things to happen.

5) Read and listen to advice
Read books or articles about what you want to achieve. Meet people who can help you and listen to their advice, but use your common sense and reason before accepting anything.

6) Alternative plans
If a certain plan doesn't work, look for an alternative one.

7) Examine your goals periodically
Some goals aren't worth achieving. Circumstances and people change. Some goals lose their importance. It is a good idea to re-examine your goals regularly and weed out the worthless ones.

8) Repeat affirmations
Affirm with faith and feelings that your goal has already been achieved. If you don't undo your affirmations with doubts and lack of belief, they will be accepted by your subconscious mind, which will then provide you with more desire and motivation.

9) Visualize your goal
Visualization will also affect your subconscious mind, which will keep you motivated, focused on your goal, and more aware of ideas and opportunities.

10) Take action
Don't just affirm and visualize and do nothing. Take any action required to bring your goal into fruition. Follow your intuition, new ideas and opportunities that present themselves, and accept help from other people.

Husband vs Wife

2010-12-10T21:57:00.001-08:00

Husband vs Wife

Husband: Do you know the meaning of WIFE?
It means, Without Information, Fighting Everytime!
Wife: No darling, it means,
With Idiot For Ever
************ ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ******

Wife: I wish I was a newspaper,
So I'd be in your hands all day.
Husband: I too wish that you were a newspaper,
So I could have a new one everyday.
************ ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ******

Doctor: Your husband needs rest and peace. Here are some sleeping
Pills.
Wife: When must I give them to him?
Doctor: They are for you
************ ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ******

Wife: I had to marry you to find out how stupid you are.
Husband: You should have known it the minute
I asked you to marry me.
************ ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ******

Husband: Today is Sunday & I have to enjoy it.
So I bought 3 movie tickets.
Wife: Why Three?
Husband: For you and your parents
************ ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ******

Wife: What will you give me if I climb the great Mount Everest?
Husband: A lovely Push...!!!
************ ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ******

Q: What is the most effective way to remember your wife's birthday?
A: Just forget it once and you will never forget it again
************ ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ******

After a quarrel, a wife said to her husband,
You know, I was a fool when I married you.
The husband replied, "Yes dear, but I was in love and didn't notice
************ ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* ********* *

Love Hate Pictures

2010-12-10T21:01:00.001-08:00

Gay Marriage: Why the Hate?

2010-12-10T20:47:00.001-08:00

Gay Marriage: Why the Hate?

Homosexuality: A Genetic Predisposition
The entire issue of "yes/no gay marriage" is very strange to me. Perhaps it's my upbringing (daughter of a lawyer), but more likely it has something to do with my tendency to separate issues and look at them as parts of a whole, rather than the whole.

What I see going on here is that we are denying full citizens in our country, who happen to have a genetic difference dictating their sexuality, their full federal and legal rights.

I know there are some who still hold that homosexuality is a choice. I hold that if you apply logical thinking, you would easily come to the conclusion even without scientific evidence, that it is not a choice.

Given that homosexuality has been frowned upon for most of the history of the western civilization as we know it, the current existence of homosexuality - despite a history of social repression and persecution - speaks highly to the genetic nature of it. If it was a choice, who would choose it in the face of such overwhelming negativity?

The scientific viewpoint currently is undecided one way or the other, although there is evidence of a gay gene.

And regardless of whether or not it is a choice, this country was founded on ideals and freedoms that should apply to and protect everyone -- as long as they are not actually harming their fellow man. This should include homosexuals.

Church Vows Vs. Legal Contract
When I got married in the church I grew up in, the bishop performed the ceremony. That was a "church" marriage. After the ceremonial vows were over, he and several other witnesses signed a legal document provided by the state. A legal document that, without which, our vows would be null and void in the eyes of the law.

Sure, maybe we would be married in God's eyes (not so much, according to the beliefs of the church I was raised in -- that wouldn't come until the temple ceremony a year later) but in the eyes of the land we would not be married.

Interestingly, many homosexuals already participate in commitment ceremonies, some even presided over by ministers and priests. Does this mean that they are married in the eyes of God, just not in the eyes of the law? Or since it's from a different religion than whatever you may suscribe to, is it null and void regardless? Does that make any marriage, straight or gay, presided over by that religion null and void?

What we are denying them are their legal and federal rights -- rights that are accorded to every other man and woman in the United States, but denied them. The argument is that we're upholding morality and procreation - so should we do psychological and physical testing prior to straight marriage? After all, we wouldn't want atheists marrying and polluting the moral values of our society by passing on their beliefs to their children.

Or what about couples who can't have children, due to illness or other issues? Should we bar them from marrying? They aren't, after all, procreating - and that is what we're protecting. It's easy enough to test them before marriage, isn't it? We could make it a legal prerequisite to the legal binding.

Common sense, people. It's a good thing.

A Religious Look
So far as I'm aware, many of the major religions have even acknowledged the probability that homosexuality is not a choice, but a biological disposition. This being the case, they are knowingly and intentionally discriminating against something that it's highly likely homosexuals can't help or control.

The official Catholic attitude towards gays and lesbians has changed since Pope John Paul II left us. Pope John Paul II felt that homosexuality was a sin and not to be condoned, but he also counseled showing respect and love to those homosexual brethren (and sisters. Sisteren?). This seems to be a contradictory statement, since he's condemning and loving them in the same breath - but hey. Let's just skip past that.

Pope Benedict XVI, however, is staunchly anti-homosexual, and actively persecutes homosexuals within the church system, even going so far as to inhibit them from the celibate life of a priest.

The LDS stance on it is that the cause, while not absolutely proven, looks to be something determined prior to birth. Simply never act on these immoral (inborn) urges, and you can still participate in the church.

In either case, the only recommended way of dealing with homosexuality within the religion of your choice is celibacy. Maybe there are some who would welcome a life of celibacy when presented to them as a choice, or a means of deepening their spiritual connection should they so desire -- but to be told, "It's us or sex," is a little dictatorial, to my view.

It would take quite a bit of time to list every religion and their current stance, but more religious stances are listed on Religious Tolerance and here, where four common religious attitudes towards homosexuality are listed. There is also a chart that outlines most of the traditional church stances, if you trust Wiki as a starting point to further research - I looked around and couldn't find such a clearly delineated chart elsewhere.

Breaking it down
What this all breaks down to is that something that is widely accepted as a quirk of nature is being discriminated against for no logical reason.

Women, too, (who are often viewed as a necessary quirk of nature, although from a scientific viewpoint, I think men are really the quirk) were once the victims of a social history of gender-specific repression; not being allowed the basic rights within a marriage that we take for granted today - such as the right to community property, full say over childrearing (or whether or not to have children), the right to keep and maintain income that they have earned, and the right to end an abusive marriage. All of them were prevented by the Marriage Act of 1753 and perpetuated as the norm throughout western civilization.

Now homosexuals are now the victims of a social bias relating to what should be their personal business: who they love and that which goes on behind closed doors.

Perhaps it's time to break out our history books and re-examine the effect repression and persecution has on our society.

http://hubpages.com/hub/Gay-Marriage-Why-the-Hate

Even Smart People Do Stupid Things

2010-12-06T22:08:00.000-08:00

Rose petals

2010-11-23T22:11:00.000-08:00

ROSE PETALS are believed by many people to be a symbol of Love, Romance, Sexual Attraction, and Conjugal Relations, and to draw Good Luck in matters of the heart. Our customers tell us that they use these petals to bring Good Luck in Love Affairs and to remove any kind of Love-Jinxing Tricks or Crossed Conditions an enemy has put on them. Some folks carry ROSE PETALS in a pink or red conjure bag with a few hairs of the beloved, adding to this "hand" other so-called Lucky Love Herbs, such as Queen Elizabeth Root, Lavender, Red Clover, Damiana, and Catnip, and dressing the bag with Love Me Oil or Come to Me Oil. Many people also place ROSE PETALS on an altar when burning candles with a prayerful request for aid in Love Affairs. We make no claims for ROSE PETALS, and sell as a Curio only.

The Most Beautiful Horse in the World :: Arabian

2010-11-20T20:27:00.000-08:00

ha ha ha ha

2010-11-20T20:24:00.000-08:00

Jabu walked into class every morning with a black eye. After a while his teacher got worried and asked him about it. Jabu's answer was: "Our house is very small miss. Me, my mother and my father, we sleep on the same bed.

Every night my father asks, 'Jabu are you sleeping?' Then I say 'No' and then he slaps my face and gives me a Black eye." So the teacher says to him, "Tonight when your father asks again, keep dead quiet and don't answer". The following morning Jabu comes to school and his eye is fine, so the teacher breathes a sigh of relief.

But the day after that Jabu comes back with a severe black eye again. "My goodness Jabu, why the black eye again?" He tells her: "Ma'm, Dad asked me again, 'Jabu are you sleeping? and I shut up and kept dead still. Then my father and my mother started moving{you know} at the same time Mom was breathing erratically, kicking her legs up frantically and squealing like a demented hyena on the bed"... Then my father asks my mother: 'Are you coming?' Then my mom says, 'Yes I'm coming, are you coming too?' and my dad answered 'Yes'. They don't usually go anywhere without me so I said 'Wait for me.

Jokes

2010-11-10T21:16:00.001-08:00

A man and a woman who have never met before find themselves in the same sleeping carriage of a train. After the initial embarrassment, they both manage to get to sleep; the woman on the top bunk, the man on the lower.
In the middle of the night the woman leans over and says, "I'm sorry to bother you, but I'm awfully cold and I was wondering if you could possibly pass me another blanket."
The man leans out and with a glint in his eye said "I've got a better idea ... let's pretend we're married."
"Why not," giggles the woman.
"Good," he replies. "Get your own blanket."

A guy is reading his paper when his wife walks up behind him and smacks him on the back of the head with a frying pan.
He asks, "What was that for?"
She says, "I found a piece of paper in your pocket with 'Betty Sue' written on it."
He says, "Jeez, honey, remember last week when I went to the track? 'Betty Sue' was the name of the horse I went there to bet on." She shrugs and walks away. Three days later he's reading his paper when she walks up behind him and smacks him on the back of the head again with the frying pan.
He asks, "What was that for?"
She answers, "Your horse called."

An Obituary You Really Must Read

2010-11-06T19:53:00.000-07:00

How true is this...An Obituary You Really Must Read

Obituary printed in the London Times - Interesting and sadly rather true.

Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape.

He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as:

- Knowing when to come in out of the rain;
- Why the early bird gets the worm;
- Life isn't always fair;
- and maybe it was my fault.

Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies (don't spend more than you can earn) and reliable strategies (adults, not children, are in charge).

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.

Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly children. It declined even further when schools were required to get parental consent to administer sun lotion or an aspirin to a student; but could not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an abortion.

Common Sense lost the will to live as the churches became businesses and criminals received better treatment than their victims. Common Sense took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.

Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement. Common Sense was preceded in death by his parents, Truth and Trust, by his wife, Discretion, by his daughter, Responsibility, and by his son, Reason.

He is survived by his 4 stepbrothers; I Know My Rights, I Want It Now, Someone Else Is To Blame, and I'm A Victim

My love is like a rose

2010-10-28T23:16:00.000-07:00

"My love is like a rose divided into two, the leaves I give to others, but the rose I give to you."

"If love were what the rose is,And I were like the leaf, Our love would grow together,In sad or sighing weather."

"A rose is a symbol of my love for you. Its petals shine in beauty, its thorn show its pain."

"Have you ever watched a rose as it fades away; the color becomes deeper as the petals dry. That's how my love for you deepens as the days go by."

"Just remember, during the winter, far beneath the bitter snow, that there's a seed that with the sun's love in the spring becomes a rose."

"Love is like a rose. When pressed between two lifetimes, it will last forever."

Friends are the roses of life... Pick them carefully and avoid the thorns!"

"There may be many flowers in a man's life, but there is only one rose."

"The red rose whispers of passion, and the white rose breathes of love; O, the red rose is a falcon, and the white rose is a dove; but I send you a cream-white rose bud, With a flush on its petal tips; for the love that is purest and sweetest, has a kiss of desire on its lips."

"A life filled with love, must have some thorns, but a life empty of love will have no roses."

"The fragrance of the rose, remains on the hand that gives it."

"True love is not without pain, like that of thorns in your side. Yet love is like the rose in full bloom, beautiful and full of life."

"The rose speaks of love silently, in a language known only to the heart."

Men are More Intelligent than Women?

2010-10-25T22:34:00.000-07:00

Men are More Intelligent than Women?

On Start the Week, on Radio 4, tonight, Jeremy Paxman asked Professor Susan Greenfield, well-known neuroscientist (and Director of the Royal Institution) "You claim, don't you, that the more emotion you have, the less mind you have?"

"That's right," she answered.

Indeed, it is one of the main propositions in her new book, The Private Life of the Brain.

She went on to say,"[For example] One might say that, in meditation, one is developing a very deep consciousness, where you are accessing your inner states, and ignoring the outside world. This could be an example of where you are NOT experiencing an emotion, as such. The opposite would be, [perhaps] a baby, or someone with road rage, or a bungy jumper, awash with emotions and who is not [therefore] 'accessing' [with the mind] the past, or the future, or anything 'inside'."

Thus, Prof Greenfield is saying that the more 'emotion' you experience, the less 'mind' you have.

Now, which of the two possible genders, statistically speaking, experiences more emotion - and would claim to?

Hmm' The female gender, one would suspect.

And it would follow, therefore, that, statistically speaking, this gender has less 'mind'. It is less in 'contact' with it.

Putting this another way: Relatively speaking, compared to men, women are less often 'accessing the past, or the future, or anything 'inside' ' - statistically, that is.

Well, that's what follows from Professor Greenfield's observations.

Notice also that if it is true that women's thought processes are more affected by emotions than are those of men - a common claim made by women themselves - then this means that their thinking is more affected by a part of the brain that is commonly regarded as being more 'primitive' - evolutionarily speaking.

women seem to function less 'mindfully' than men

All in all, therefore, women seem to function less 'mindfully' than men, or, putting it less euphemistically, less 'intelligently'.

Statistically speaking.

In addition, it cannot have escaped even the most ardent feminist's notice that it is men who are the focused, the possessed, and the obsessed. It is men who push forward the boundaries of science, music, technology and art. It is men who build great cities and great religions.

It is men who tinker well into the night, studying and prising apart the boundaries of even the most obscure and intractable.

I knew one man who spent six years studying locust legs.

Not locusts.

Locust LEGS!

FOR SIX YEARS!

And he is probably still at it.

I knew another who was a mathematician and who struggled daily, FOR YEARS, with some obscure problem in which only one other person in the entire world seemed to have any interest - and it wasn't me.

Just look at any science programme on TV and notice the 'workers' labouring in the various scientific fields. The 'experts'. The ones who sneak into their laboratories even on Christmas Day to skulk around engines, chemicals, computers or insects. The ones who spend hour upon hour, year upon year, squashed into their little rooms to study the contents of test-tubes or tissues. The ones who wander into the most hostile and desolate parts of the planet to scrub around for clues, artifacts and ideas.

They're nearly all men!

It is men who lead, explore, push forward and calculate.

the intelligence of men must creep forward more quickly, and further, than that of women,

And, to the extent that intelligence is based on factors in the environment, as opposed to genetics, or based upon learning and studying, as opposed to 'emotionalising' (and, so, losing 'mind') then the intelligence of men must creep forward more quickly, and further, than that of women, throughout their lives - because, statistically speaking, they choose to take on more of the intelligent-provoking 'environment', and they interact with it in much more of an objective and emotionless way (i.e. with more 'mind').

When it comes to intelligence, men have got what it takes. They drive in straight lines, they focus their attention, they do not multitask, they obsess, and they do not spend so much time emotionalising.

And they actually increase their intelligence by doing such things.

And the whole species benefits from their pursuits.

Statistically speaking, men are taller than women. Not much, but significantly so. The picture below is of some men and women. Some of the women, quite a few of them, are actually taller than quite a few of the men.

The very same men and women have fallen in love, and they have partnered each other. They are so happy. But, notice that EVERY SINGLE man is TALLER than EVERY SINGLE woman.

And the same thing happens with intelligence. Just as it is that women, statistically speaking, prefer men who are taller than them, and richer than them, and socially higher up the ladder than them, so it is that they prefer men who are more intelligent than them.

Not only do women admit to this last aspect, recent research also shows that most women believe that their partners are more intelligent than them.

And they are!

The situation is exactly the same as for Picture B. Simply think of intelligence instead of height. All the women in this picture have chosen partners who are 'more intelligent' than them, even though it is true that, statistically speaking, across the whole population, there are millions of women who are more intelligent than millions of men.

And until such time as women CHOOSE partners who are less than, or equal to, themselves in terms of intelligence, the statement that 'men are more intelligent than women' will remain true even when looking at the issue as it relates to partnerships between men and women.

men are MOSTLY more intelligent than their female partners.

Putting this another way: When it comes to looking at men and women as they function within their relationships, men are MOSTLY more intelligent than their female partners.

But, of course, we all know this instinctively.

We just cannot say so.

But it is clear that both men and women CHOOSE things to be this way - statistically speaking.

As Germaine Greer puts it, "Women are not valued for their intelligence." She's wrong(ish). They are. But they are not loved for it, nor are they found attractive as a result of it - statistically speaking.

In her book, Sexual Personae, Camille Paglia said that, "If civilization had been left in female hands, we would still all be living in grass huts."

She has a point, because if women had, indeed, been the dominant gender, each one would have used her influence to promote further 'emotionalising', and the result would have been less achievement with regard to developing other things.

Like wheels.

And this, of course, partly explains why the educational systems in the west are currently failing so miserably to produce high standards in their pupils. There is too much emotionalising going on, and not enough thinking; i.e. not enough 'mind'.

And, in the past, those little societies that spent their time emotionalising, instead of creating, inventing and progressing, had no chance in evolutionary terms. They lost the battle long ago. The men were killed and the women were carried away. And they no longer exist. They have been statistically washed away.

Camille Paglia also said that, "Women have been discouraged from genres such as sculpture that require studio training or expensive materials.

But in philosophy, mathematics, and poetry, the only materials are pen and paper.

Male conspiracy cannot explain ALL female failures.

I am convinced that, even without restrictions, there still would have been no female Pascal, Milton, or Kant.

. . . Even now, with all vocations open, I marvel at the rarity of the woman driven by artistic or intellectual obsession, that self-mutilating derangement of social relationship which, in its alternate forms of crime and ideation, is the disgrace and glory of the human species."

Men are, indeed, more intelligent and creative than women, on the whole. They work at it. They strive for it. They value it. They are loved for it. They are wanted for it.

And the mental environments in which they choose to spend their time definitely develop their talents even further.

That is, they give much more time to their 'minds'.

women, STATISTICALLY SPEAKING, will never be able to compete successfully with men

And this is mostly why women, STATISTICALLY SPEAKING, will never be able to compete successfully with men intellectually and nor, therefore, in any task or job which requires intellectual endeavour.

Finally, it is worth pointing out that not only do men develop their intelligence by CHOOSING to engage more so in activities that enhance it - as opposed to emotionalising - (and so, to the extent that the environment affects intelligence then it will do so more for men than it will for women) but it is also the case that, thanks to the Y chromosome, the genetic variability of men is greater than that of women, so spreading the range of their intelligence more widely. The consequence is that at the bottom range of intelligence there will be found to be far more men than women, and in the top range the SAME will be true.

Further, and for the same reason, both the highest and the lowest intelligence levels of men are more extreme than those of women.

And the upshot of all this is that at the high-flier levels, women haven't got a hope of competing with men either in terms of their number or in terms of their achievements. Thus, there is not so much of a glass ceiling created by sex-discriminatory men holding back the realisation of statistical parity between men and women in the higher echelons of the world, the women's relative lack of success in these lofty places is far more due to the choices that they make and their less-variable genetic makeup, neither of which is the fault of men.

http://angryharry.com/esMenareMoreIntelligentthanWomen.htm

How Will I Know I Am in Love?

2010-10-21T19:48:00.000-07:00

http://www.guideposts.com/story/how-will-i-know-i-am-in-love?page=0%2C0

How Will I Know I Am in Love?
7 ways to find out.
By Charles D. Schmitz and Elizabeth A. Schmitz

You suddenly and out of nowhere are inspired to say "I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU!" You shout it to the stars. You are in love!
In our many interviews with people “in love” we ask them, perhaps, the most revealing question of the interview—“How did you know you were in love?” We have heard very consistent answers. And conversely, many people involved in a new loving relationship, particularly young people, often ask us, “How do I know if I am in love?” We think we know the answer.

While we have heard a number of answers to our “How did you know you were in love” question, we can place them in seven categories. And, perhaps surprisingly, they have stayed the same over our 25 years of research on couples in love. Here they are, in a nutshell.

The first category is physical. People who say they are in love report getting “goosebumps,” “a palpitating heart,” “sweaty palms,” “a lump in my throat,” “teary-eyed when I say goodbye,” “a tingling sensation all over my body,” and the like. People in love have a positive physical reaction when they think about or see the one they love in person.

The second category is emotional. When they think about or see the person they love, most lovers report similar feelings—“I laugh more often when I am with the person I love,” “an uncontrollable smile comes over my face whenever I see her,” and “I miss him when he leaves the room.” People in love feel emotions for the person they love that they do not routinely feel for others.

The third category is positive worry. Over the years, we continue to be amazed about the consistency with which people in love report to us that they “worry about their lover” when they are not around.

Little thoughts of what we have come to call “positive worry” about the one they love begins to creep into their mind—things like car accidents, falling down, getting hurt at work, and getting sick. The folks we interview for the most part do not worry compulsively or negatively. These thoughts are normal and natural when you are “in love.”

The fourth category is what we call the I-cannot-imagine-life-without-hercategory. This is the point in love when you begin to think about the future—your future with the one you love. When you cannot imagine your life without him, you are in love!

The fifth category focuses on the oneness of your relationship. You begin to realize that you truly want this other person in your life. You want to be with her. You want to share with her. You want to live with her, share a bed with her, hold her, and hug her.

In our book, we refer to the notion of “turning two into one.” You actually begin to think about the one you love and not just about yourself or your needs. You think about his—his wants, his needs, and his desires. When the feeling of oneness consumes your body, you are in love!
The sixth category is about preoccupied love. Simply stated, you think about the one you love most of the time. You can’t get her out of your mind. You pull her photo out of your wallet and you smile. You are preoccupied with him. When you are preoccupied with him, you are in love with him!

The seventh and final category is love itself and your ability to express that love. You finally have the courage to tell her you love her! You miss him when he is not around. You worry about her. You care about his safety and welfare. You feel about her in ways you have never felt about another human being before.

You suddenly and out of nowhere are inspired to say "I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU!" You shout it to the stars. You are in love!

Ghost Sex

2010-10-21T19:46:00.000-07:00

Ghost Sex

A professor at the Auburn University was giving a lecture on Paranormal Studies.

To get a feel for his audience, he asks,
'How many people here believe in ghosts?'

About 90 students raise their hands.

Well, that's a good start. Out of those who believe in ghosts,
do any of you think you have seen a ghost?'

About 40 students raise their hands.

That's really good. I'm really glad you take this seriously.
Has anyone here ever talked to a ghost?'

About 15 students raise their hand.

Has anyone here ever touched a ghost?'

Three students raise their hands.

That's fantastic. Now let me ask you one question further...
Have any of you ever made love to a ghost?'

Way in the back, Ahmed raises his hand.

The professor takes off his glasses and says:
'Son, all the years I've been giving this lecture,
no one has ever claimed to have made love to a ghost.
You've got to come up here and tell us about your experience.'

The Middle Eastern student replied with a nod and a grin,
and began to make his way up to the podium.

When he reached the front of the room, the professor asks,
'So, Ahmed, tell us what it's like to have sex with a ghost?'

Ahmed replied,
"Shit, from way back there I thought you said Goats."

Nice One

2010-10-16T22:41:00.001-07:00

Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble,
but it is a "steering wheel" that directs the right path throughout.

Do you know why a Car's WINDSHIELD is so large & the Rearview Mirror is so small? Because our PAST is not as important as our
FUTURE. Look Ahead and Move on.

Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes few seconds to burn, but it
takes years to write.

All things in life are temporary. If going well, enjoy it, they
will not last forever. If going wrong, don't worry, they can't last
long either.

Old Friends are Gold! New Friends are Diamond! If you get a
Diamond, don't forget the Gold! Because to hold a Diamond, you
always need a Base of Gold!

Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, GOD smiles from
above and says, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end!

When GOD solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities;
when GOD doesn't solve your problems HE has faith in your abilities.

When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them,
and sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remember that someone
has prayed for you.

WORRYING does not take away tomorrows' TROUBLES, it takes away
todays' PEACE.

Check out this clock.

2010-10-15T01:30:00.000-07:00

Check out this clock.
Chances are, you've never seen one quite like this before.

http://www.poodwaddle.com/worldclock.swf

Why Women are Better Than Men 81-100

2010-10-15T01:18:00.001-07:00

Why Women are Better Than Men 81-100

We don't have to make fools out of ourselves to impress a man

Our friends don't pick on us if we aren't sleeping with anyone

Men don't know what our 'girl talk' is all about (and I'm not gonna tell you)

We're all sittin on a gold mine - we know it and use it to our extreme advantage

We don't have to drive when on a date 86. An ugly woman can use makeup and get a new hairdo to become presentable - ugly men are just fucked

Women can use the old "that mark on my neck is from a curling iron burn" line

Women know how fake it

Women look better naked

We know that rhythm doesn't only pertain to dancing

When women are short, we're petite, when men are short, they're just short

Women do less time for violent crime

Women don't have to worry about not being able to get it up

An oblong vegetable is all we need for a good time any night

Women's conversations generally consist of more than just "uh huh, yep ok then bye"

Women don't need an excuse to be in a bad mood

Women never have to see combat

The remote control is not an extension of ourselves

Women are sexier

And the 100th reason its better to be a woman - this one is
definitely worthy of reiteration: We can get laid ANYTIME, ANYWHERE, ANY WAY we want it!

white peacock

2010-10-10T02:34:00.001-07:00

Love God

2010-10-08T22:23:00.000-07:00

Listen to your heart

2010-10-07T23:22:00.000-07:00

Listen to your heart

Horror gripped the heart of a World War I soldier, as he saw his lifelong friend fell in battle. Caught in a trench with continuous gunfire whizzing over his head, the soldier asked his Lieutenant if he could go out into the �no man�s land� between the trenches to bring his fallen comrade back.

"You can go,'"said the Lieutenant, "but I don't think it will be worth it. Your friend is probably dead and you may throw your life away." The Lieutenant's words didn�t matter, and the soldier went anyway.

Miraculously, he managed to reach his fiend, hoisted him onto his shoulder and brought him back to their company's trench. As the two of them tumbled in together to the bottom of the trench, the officer checked the wounded soldier, and then looked kindly at his friend. "I told you it wouldn�t be worth it," he said. "You friend is dead and you are mortally wounded.
"It was worth it, Sir,' said the soldier.
"What do you mean by worth it ?" responded the Lieutenant. "You friend is dead."
"Yes Sir," the private answered, "but it was worth it because when I got to him, he was still alive and I got the chance to her him say".."JIM.. I KNEW YOU"D COME."

Many times in life, whether a thing is worth doing or not, really depends on how you look at it. Take up all your courage and do something your heart tells you to do, so that you may not regret not doing it later in your life.

#A true friend is one who walks in, when the rest of the world walks out.

Morning

2010-10-07T23:20:00.001-07:00

Installing Love

2010-10-07T23:06:00.000-07:00

Installing Love

Customer Service: Can you install Love?

Customer: I can do that. I'm not very technical, but I think I'm ready to install now. What do I do first?

Service: The first step is to open your Heart. Have you located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, I have, but there are several programs running right now. Is it okay to install while they are running?

Service: What programs are running?

Customer: Let me see! I have Pasthurt.exe, Lowesteem.exe, Grudge.exe and Resentment.com running right now.

Service: No problem. Love will automatically erase Pasthurt.exe from your current operating system. It may remain in your permanent memory, but it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love will eventually overwrite Lowesteem.exe whit a module of its own, called Highesteem.exe. However, you have to completely turn off Grudge.exe and Resentment.com. Those programs prevent Love from being properly installed.
Can you turn those off?

Customer: I don't know how to turn them off. Can you tell me how?

Service: My pleasure. Go to your Start menu and invoke Forgiveness.exe. Do this as many times as necessary until Grudge.exe and Resentment.com have been completely erased.

Customer: Okay, I�m done. Love has started installing itself automatically. Is that normal?

Service: Yes it is. You should receive a message that says it will reinstall for the life of your Heart. Do you see that message?

Customer: Yes I do. Is it completely installed?

Service: Yes, but remember that you have only the base program. You need to begin connecting to other Hearts to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. What should I do?

Service: What does the message say?

Customer: It says 'Error 412 ' Program not run on internal components.
What does that mean?

Service: Don't worry, that�s a common problem. It means that the Love program is set up to run on external Hearts but has not yet been running on your Heart. It is one of those complicated programming things, but in non-technical terms it means that you have to 'love' your own machine before it can 'love' others.

Customer: So what should I do?

Service: Can you find the directory called �Self-acceptance�?

Customer: Yes, I have it.

Service: Excellent, you are getting good at this.

Customer: Thank you.

Service: You're welcome. Click on the following files and then copy them to the �Myheart directory: Forgiveself.doc, Selfesteem.txt, Realizeworth.txt and Goodness.doc. The system will overwrite conflicting files and begin patching any faulty programming. Also, you need to delete �Selfcriticize.exe� from all directories, and then empty your recycle bin afterwards to make sure it is completely gone and never comes back.

Customer: Got it! Wow! My Heart is filling up with really neat files. Smile.mpg is playing on my monitor right now, and it shows that Warmth.com, Peace.exe and Contentment.com are copying themselves all over my Heart!

Service: Then Love is installed and running. You should be able to handle it from here. One more thing before I go.

Customer: Yes?

Service: Love is freeware. Be sure to give it and its various modules to everybody you are meeting. They will in turn share it with other people, and they will return some really neat modules back to you.

Customer: I will. Thank you for your help.

Service: You're very welcome.

Courtesy: Krupa Darshan, Ranjit Mayekar, USA